Whatever is your weakness in life, you need to get help for total freedom. One thing i have noticed and my experience is that weaknesses can last long for a while if we tend to solve issues ourselves. For example, addiction or anger. We see addiction as a weak point in life where you feel if you share your problem, you will be embarrassed to share or rather judged. Am here to say; swallow your pride, and confess your weakness and get help needed.
Find a godly mentor, friend, or family member that will stand in faith with you. I still get help from my close friends in faith. They help when I need inspiration or lending a few points to help me overcome strife.
So don’t be embarrassed, confess your weakness knowing God can help you overcome the negative pattern of life.
We all have that one thing we are addicted to. No addiction is small nor big. So far, it affects us one way or the other, it is bad. Addiction can take a lot from us but it’s best we find a solution and try to quit the habit. It is not an easy ride but eventually, it is worth the battle.
Ben Affleck is a Hollywood superstar. Ben Affleck’s life story is a motivational one for all the people fighting their addiction. He understands the difficult struggle, a dedicated person goes through to get rid of their addiction. Ben Affleck’s life story with his wife Jennifer garner can be an inspiration for you and might light a spark in you to change and improve your life for the better.
It is hard for one to put up with an addicted person. But it takes courage and support to help them mentally and physically. Ben Affleck’s ex-wife Jennifer watched him suffer for 13 years. She reportedly seemed visibly shaken after meeting with Affleck.
His drinking problem had become life or death. They have really worked on their marriage and they just couldn’t do it anymore. These words spread all around.
I never thought I was going to get divorced. I didn’t want to get divorced. I really did not want to be a split family. It was quite upsetting because it meant I wasn’t who I thought I was, and that was so disappointing and so painful, and people’s reaction about am I serious about my recovery? was absolute not. They advised Jenn to set her boundaries. I really don’t want my children to pay for what I did. You’re trying to do right by your kids and you’re trying to protect them. You could tell you still love her when you just talked about her- Ben
Jennifer supported me in every step. “You know It’s bad enough absolutely. It’s hard enough.” Jennifer to the paparazzi.
Jennifer always wanted to raise a happy family like her parents. How could she give their kids that feeling and freedom and joy? but after her first marriage fell apart, Jennifer thought she’d missed her chance.
So, when Jennifer fell for Ben Affleck, she finally got her second chance at true love and when they got married a year later, Jennifer vowed she would make it work no matter what. How things are going mommyhood is going. It’s like the most, it just gets better and better for the next decade, Jennifer and Ben were Hollywood’s IT couple. Jennifer helped Ben clean up his playboy image and focus on his work. Ben Affleck, Argo.
I, always and still thank my wife for being the reason I’m standing here, I adore her, I love her so much. She is my everything. I thank her for working on our marriage for 10 Christmases. It’s work, but it is the best kind of work and there’s no one other than Jennifer, I’d rather work with. They looked like the picture-perfect family on the outside but ben’s long battle with sobriety had taken a dark turn.
Jennifer tried desperately to cling to the broken marriage, but it was too late.
In 2015, the couple announced their separation.
She realized, “I can’t go down this rabbit hole.” She just shut it all out. I was like “you don’t care about me, how could you not care for us?” she’s like, “no, actually it’s the opposite. I care too much, it’s too painful.”
But little did we know, it was about to get much worse. what was the hardest thing for you to be honest with yourself about? That I was going to get divorced. I never thought I was going to get divorced, and I didn’t want to get divorced. I didn’t want to be the worst person, I really didn’t want to be a split family.
The collapse of his marriage sent Ben down a dangerous path he was spotted receiving what looked like delivery of beer and whiskey at his home. It quite upsetting for me because it meant I wasn’t who I thought I was, and that was so painful and so disappointing.
Still feeling responsible, Jennifer rushed to Ben’s side Jennifer refused to give up on Ben because she knew her children needed their father.
You can’t buy parenting, you have to get down on the floor and play. Even if you’re a super busy mom or dad, you have to find time for your kids. She lost the dream of dancing with me at our daughter’s wedding, and if you see your kids love someone so purely and wholly then you’re going to be friends with that person.
But no matter how hard she tried, Jennifer couldn’t fix it. I was totally manipulating the rehab. 8:30 this morning I left the treatment center to play a 3 hour game of basketball. Garner reportedly seemed visibly shaken after meeting with me.
After sticking by me for 13 years, Jennifer finally had to let go and that turned out to be exactly what I needed to stand on my own. I really don’t want my children to pay for what I had done. Or to be afraid for me.
I don’t really have a choice. I have to be the man I want to be at this point. I don’t have any more room for failure of that kind.
Without Jennifer to lean on, I was forced to take responsibility. There are things that I would love to go back and change. I have regrets. I’ve made plenty of mistakes, some big, some small.
Once I had finally accepted my past, I could focus on my future:
Becoming the man Jennifer always believed I could be. I took the last half of the year off and I just got to be a dad. Drive them to school, pick them up, go to the swim meet, that’s where the parenting happens. It’s in the cracks, it’s in the moments where you’re just taking them back from soccer and they say something profound or they talk about how they’re really feeling about something. That’s the joy of it and that’s what I don’t want to miss.
Today, I continue to work on myself while putting my children before anything else and Jennifer may not have the marriage she always dreamed of but her children have the parents they need.
Addiction has its consequences that affect people around us.
The story ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner shows us that everyone makes mistakes but when you’re a parent, nothing comes before the safety and happiness of your children.
If you can just have faith in who you are and who they are as people, it’s so beautiful when you see it starting to come out. you could tell you still love her when you just talked about her. Of course, she’s wonderful. you know, somebody who’s the mother of your kids, they’re going to be the most important central person in your life. That’s really admirable how you and Ben Affleck have both, it’s all about children first and being a team.
It has to be.
NB: Don’t get addicted to things. If you see a sign at an early stage, please try to prevent it. If not, it becomes a struggle. Everyone has one.
Been a while I posted on this platform. Am happy to be back and consistent. A quick question for you guys today..
What do you think about the topic today?
Video games are dangerous to your mental health and will make you become an addict. Do you believe that? Of course, we hear this repeated time and time again about videogame addiction, and it’s even gotten into a manual of psychiatric disorders, but should it be there?
Repeatedly saying video gaming is an addiction, doesn’t make it so. There are several contradictions that we must consider about video games and addictions.
If video gaming is an addiction, there is ahuge number of peoplewith it because “The…number of video gamers worldwide in 2018, broken down by region, (indicates)…there were over 1.23 billion gamers in Asia Pacific in 2018, with the region generating $71.4 billion of revenue in the same year.”
There were over 1.23 billion gamers Asia Pacific in 2018 raised the estimate. “There are approximately 2.2 billion gamers in the world. Out of the estimated 7.6 billion people living on earth, as of July 2018, that means almost a third of people on this planet are gamers.” Video gaming is a big business and enjoyed worldwide.
Addictions and playing video games, according to a significant review of the research, are not the same. Yes, there are certain things which they both share.
One thing they both share is that they stimulate a person to want to engage in the activity because it is pleasurable. Regarding the games, who doesn’t want to win and show that they can compete effectively with people all over the world?
Millions of gamers are playing each other throughout the day and the night. The internet is abuzz with their efforts to win points, raise to higher levels, or open secret doors. Wouldn’t you want that?
It doesn’t matter what your age is, because video games can be very pleasurable activities, especially in a profoundly troubling world. The escape aspect is part of the notion that the games are addictive.
Video gaming’s positive effects
Not all video games are based on violence and destruction, and it is here that we must make a distinction. Games can be exciting and require skills in anticipating goals and planning how to reach those goals. They can also include design elements when there are pieces that must fit into geometric patterns.
Games can also encourage cooperative behaviortoward other players. Altruism has been found in some of the research that has been reviewed over the years. When playing games that promote positive response with others, there is ahalo effect that carries on after the game.
Games can also engage childrenand adults in developing finer hand-eye coordination and the use of a controller. Vision also benefits because many of the games require a high degree of visual alertness. Surveying the landscape in the game leads to more acute visual perception, as studies have shown.
Gameplaying also involves repeated actionsthat will strengthen brain cell connections. What does this mean in plain English? Memory and learning are enhanced as a result of these actions.
Reaction time is enhanced. Gameplaying requires real-time action that activates areas of the brain controlling sensory movement. In other words, you learn to react physically in a faster manner to make a response to the game.
Video games effect on the brain
There is an actual physical change in the brain after game playing. If we could weigh the brains of gamers, we would be able to quantify how the games added some additional brain weight. And brain weight can equal added abilities, increased memory and warding off late-life cognitive decline.
A study of frequent game players showed that certain part of the braininvolved in decision-making are most affected, and that makes sense. You are making rapid decisions during the game, and that’s what you may have to do in your daily life, so game playing is preparation.
Games require logical thinkingand help in decision-making not only while playing the game but afterward. This is called “sticky ” learning that will last and be utilized in other actions in the future. Gameplaying, including any game that involves firing a weapon, can enhance cognitive control and planning.
Gameplaying involves thebrain releasing the “happiness hormone,”dopamine, which is involved in receiving a reward. It is this reward that is involved in gamers’ wanting to continue gameplaying, and that’s where some have indicated it is an addiction.
Rewards are not necessarily addictions, however. Do students become addicted to attending school if they’re getting good grades? Some might, but the majority don’t skip off to school each morning.
The educational component
Not all video games are based on violence and destruction. And it is here that we must make a distinction. Games can be exciting and educational and require skills in anticipating goals and planning how to reach those goals.
Memory skills can be improved if the game is developed in that direction.
The game can be whatever the coder wants it to be. Herein lies the educational challenge. If kids love video games, there’s the educator’s entre to helping them learn and develop that stickiness that is so important.
Are video games dangerous? Some might be for a select group of gamers. Are they addictive? Yes, but it can be a positive form of “addiction” that will encourage mental development.
A wise man once told me that we learn a lot from different things. Things that society or our parents see as distractions.
You can get motivated by playing video games or even watching movies. It depends on how you analyse what you visualise and make good use of the result.
I wanted to be popular so badly that I let my life get out of control. – Anonymous.
I wanted to be popular so badly that I let my life get out of control.
I’m not exactly sure when I realized my life was spinning out of control. Maybe it was that night in the police car. I’d just been caught shoplifting, and they were taking me down to the police station.
Maybe it was the night my parents found an empty wine bottle in my closet. They’d suspected I’d been drinking, but when they found that bottle, they knew it was serious.
Or maybe it was the day one of my friends caught me throwing up. No, I wasn’t hung over. I was just obsessed with being thin; I wanted to look good for my friends, so I’d fallen into a cycle of binge-and-purge, eat-and-vomit.
It was disgusting. And I was disgusted with myself.
How had it come to this, anyway?
I’d grown up in a Christian family. I thought I had my act together … until I hit high school. That’s when things started happening, things that led to some major changes in my life—and some bad decisions on my part.
First, we started building a new house, and the only time we could work on it was on weekends. We stopped going to church regularly. Eventually, we spent less and less time praying and reading the Bible.
Second, my best friend moved away the summer before I started ninth grade. I felt really lost and alone, so when school started that fall, I was desperate for some new friends. And it was that desperation, my intense desire to “fit in” with the right group, that ultimately led me down the path of self-destruction.
I met Kathy during the first week of ninth grade. She was one of the most popular students, so when she befriended me, I was pretty excited. I’d never been part of the “in” group before.
It wasn’t long before Kathy invited me to spend the night with her at another friend’s house. But that night turned out to be much more than I’d expected. It was a major party, with lots of alcohol.
I’d never been to anything like that before. And before the night was over, I started feeling excited about everything—the sense of freedom, of having no limits, of trying something new and grown-up.
I didn’t get drunk that night, but a pattern had begun. Before long, I was partying and getting drunk every weekend. I was staying out later and later. And since our house was still under construction, we didn’t have a phone. So I would stay out as late as I wanted, then I’d lie about where I’d been. What could my folks do? They couldn’t say, “Well, you should have called.”
By that time, I wanted to be as thin as the other girls in my group of friends. So I started forcing myself to throw up after meals. In fact, I became so obsessed with my weight that when I was at a party, I’d drink until I’d get sick and throw up, just so those calories wouldn’t be in my body.
And then there was shoplifting. Since it was a part of the “fun” my friends were into, I felt I had to join in, too. I enjoyed the thrill of getting away with it. At first, I mostly took small things that didn’t cost much. But soon, I was taking clothes and other expensive things.
So there I was, a freshman in high school, a common thief with a drinking problem and an eating disorder. And all because I wanted so badly to “fit in.”
As much as I loved being part of the in-crowd, I knew my life was out of control. I wanted things to change, but I couldn’t do it on my own. If I said I wanted to change, my friends would immediately dump me. But secretly, I wanted to get caught. I felt that would be my only way out.
Then it happened.
First, my folks found the wine bottle. My mom and I were up all night yelling and fighting.
Then I got caught shoplifting. One of my friends who’d never shoplifted asked me to teach her how. She really wanted a bathing suit. We found one she liked and she took it. When we got outside the store, she asked if I would hold the bathing suit, because she was nervous.
Well, I got caught holding the goods, literally. It would have been easy for me to tell the store clerk that my friend took it. But for some reason, I covered for her.
The cops came, and took me away in the squad car. I had to call my parents to come and get me at the police station. The ride home was awful. My mom and dad sat together in the front seat, holding hands and crying. I sat by the window, staring outside, not believing what had just happened.
How could this be? I wondered. I felt so ashamed.
Shortly after that, one of my friends caught me throwing up. She called my parents to tell them. Even though I was angry at my friend for squealing on me, it was the best thing anyone could have done. My mom confronted me, and we really had it out that night. At that point, my mom realized my problems weren’t going to go away on their own, and that I was really putting myself in danger.
My mom made an appointment for me to see a counselor, and I thought it was a good idea. Those counseling sessions helped a lot. We talked about the drinking, the stealing, the bulimia, my friends, how I was feeling, and what I wanted my life to be like.
I later learned how much my folks had worried about me and loved me through all the garbage I was doing. I found out my dad had been getting up at 4 o’clock every morning to pray for me. I cried when I heard that.
I knew I needed to make some changes in my life. I wanted to stop the drinking and throwing up and stealing because I was scared for my health and safety.
Also, I wanted to stop living a lie. I’d been lying to my parents all along. I’d been lying to my friends about what kind of person I was. And I’d been lying to myself about what was important to me. I was ashamed of the way I’d been living, and I knew it wasn’t what God wanted for my life.
I had some big fears about changing, though. I knew I’d have to find some new friends who wouldn’t pressure me to act a certain way. I was so afraid I’d end up with no friends at all. But God was already working on that. Within a short time, I met a group of girls who accepted me and cared about me for who I was. They also shared my Christian values, so I was free to be myself.
But sometimes change is slow. A year later, I decided to attend a party with some old friends. Even though I knew there’d be drinking, there were a few girls I really missed, so I decided to go. I decided I’d be careful and I wouldn’t drink. I even felt like I could be an example to my old friends.
But things didn’t turn out the way I’d planned. I wasn’t at the party very long before I started drinking, and after a few hours, I was really drunk and sick. The only way I could get home was to call my dad, which was humiliating, especially after the promises I’d made.
In the car on the way home, my dad was really quiet. The only thing he said was, “You’re old enough to punish yourself, Colleen.”
Dad was right. I punished myself by refusing to go out—with any friends—for a long time.
Dad also suggested I start reading my Bible again.
He was right again. So I started reading it faithfully. And all over again, I could see how much God loves me, how much he cares for me, just the way I am.
That party incident was the last of its kind for me.
A couple years have gone by. I’m not interested in the party scene any more. My shoplifting days were done after that run-in with the police. And after a lot of counseling, I’m no longer fighting my eating disorder—though I still struggle with how I feel about my body.
I’m so much happier now. I’m hanging with a good group of friends, people who love me for who I am—not for somebody I’m pretending to be. And even though I care and worry about my old friends, I’ve decided not to spend time with them. I’ve learned the hard way that I can’t handle it very well.
When I last saw my old friends, one of them asked me, “What happened to you? You used to be so much fun at parties, but we never see you any more. You should hang out with us again.”
I just smiled and said, “No thanks. I’m much happier now.”
This is a true life story sent to me from one of my subscribers. Don’t be desperate to fit into any group, friendship, or relationship. Be yourself and respect the fact you have a good attitude that will attract the right group of people into your life.
Are you struggling with breaking bad habits and addictions? Here are 5 strategies for breaking bad habits that will help you finally break free.
When it comes to breaking bad habits, there is no denying we’re all guilty of them one way or the other. They can range from severe to mild. For the mild ones, they are easier to overcome. But for the severe ones, this is where the struggle is real. How can we overcome bad habits through God’s grace accompanied by our own efforts?
Breaking Bad Habits with God’s Help
1. Determine if the bad habit is severe or mild.
Or in other words, is it an addiction or just slight misconduct? If it is the former, this might require medical intervention with a professional. But, accompanied by spiritual guidance through mentoring or coaching sessions.
If it is the latter, this will involve a change in the lifestyle or interests. One possible way is to look for other meaningful hobbies if, let’s say, you have this habit of spending most of your free time on social media. Though social networking has its good side, it also has its bad side. Or if it has something to do with chronic lateness in everything, then a shift in the lifestyle might be required. Creating a calendar of activities or a to-do list, for one, might be able to help.
2. Create a resolutions list.
Or much better, a faith goals list. When we hear the word “resolutions,” often nothing happens. But if these are faith goals, we are not just believing in ourselves that we can make them happen, but we believe for God to work on our behalf. As the Bible says,
“In the same way, faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead.” – James 2:17
3. Connect with a spiritual family.
The spiritual family is one of the best groups to go to when it comes to therapy sessions. Because for those dealing with extreme cases of addiction, the healing needs to be deep within. There is no best way to go when it comes to spiritual healing except for the source of life – God.
4. Involve your closest support system.
This support system is your family and friends that are closest to you. We call them your “accountability partners.” They will check up on you if you’re making any progress at all. Ask for their feedback, too, but be open-minded when they give you suggestions including a rebuke. Often, being rebuked because the truth is too painful more than the addiction or bad habit, itself. But we can always remember they are “speaking the truth in love” (Ephesians 4:15) because they care.
5. Apply a reward/punishment system.
Having a system is a good approach if you’re aiming to reinforce good behavior and eliminate the bad. Progressive schools apply this concept to children as a way of teaching discipline. Reward yourself if you were able to meet some of your faith goals. But it is also necessary to list down and apply the consequences/punishment to yourself if you fail to achieve the targeted goals. You may do this either by fasting or removing something you can’t live without every day. For the reward, you may treat yourself by buying that new jacket you’ve been eyeing on lately or go on an out-of-town trip.R
All in all, these strategies when it comes to breaking bad habits won’t be helpful if not accompanied by self-discipline, self-control, and lots of quiet times with the Lord. We all deal with our inability to control and discipline ourselves in some areas of our lives. But this is the perfect reason why there is a God, and we need Him. If we need to change and break habits, we need an even more powerful force to help us subdue them. Only God can change hearts because nothing is just too hard for God; even when it seems impossible for man (Matthew 19:26).
If you can’t imagine your life without social media, that’s a sign that you’ve fallen a victim to the evil power of social networking. It also means that you’ve experienced one (or more) of the negative effects of social media on society.
Let’s explore the darker side of social media and exactly how (and why) it’s bad for you. You’ll be surprised to learn the negative effects of social media are both physical and mental. It can change your perception of the world and yourself, and not always for the better.
Don’t believe us? Then read on to find out some of the negative effects of social media. And if you recognize any of them as your own symptoms it may be time to consider stop using social media altogether.
1. Depression and Anxiety
Do you spend more than two hours per day on social media? Spending too long on social networking sites could be adversely affecting your mood. In fact, you’re more likely to report poor mental health, including symptoms of anxiety and depression.
So how to use social media without causing yourself psychological distress? If you turn to the same research (and common sense), the recommended amount of time you should spend on social networks is half an hour per day. So, as with so many things in life, it’s all about moderation- Anya Zhukova
Before social media, bullying was something only done face-to-face. However, now, someone can be bullied online anonymously. Today everyone knows what cyberbullying is, and most of us have seen what it can do to a person. And since screens hide our faces, you can even be a jerk on sites like Reddit without realizing it.
While social media made making friends easier, it also made it easier for predators to find victims. The anonymity that social networks provide can be used by the perpetrators to gain people’s trust and then terrorize them in front of their peers.
These online attacks often leave deep mental scars and even drive people to suicide in some cases. You’ll be surprised to find out that cyberbullying isn’t just affecting kids, but also full grown adults.
Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) is a phenomenon that was born at the same time as Facebook—and it’s one of the most common negative effects of social media. FOMO is basically a form of anxiety that you get when you’re scared of missing out on a positive experience or emotions that someone else is getting.
This fear is constantly fueled by your social media engagement. The more you use social networks, the more likely you are to see that someone is having more fun that you are right now. And that’s exactly what causes FOMO.
4. Unrealistic Expectations
This one probably comes as no surprise, but social media helps you to form unrealistic expectations of life and friendships. The networks that do it most are Facebook, Instagram, and Snapchat. Those are the social media platforms that severely lack online authenticity.
Today, body image is an issue for many people of both sexes. Of course, seeing those perfect in accordance with the society standards people on a daily basis makes you conscious about how different you look from those pictures. And not everyone comes to the right conclusions in this situation.
6. Unhealthy Sleep Patterns
On top of increased rates of anxiety and depression, spending too much time on social media can lead to poor sleep. Numerous studies have shown that increased use of social media has a negative effect on your sleep quality.
Social media is often described as being more addictive than cigarettes and alcohol. With the worst social media apps being Facebook, Instagram, and Snapchat when it comes to addiction.
Don’t know if you’re addicted to your social networks? Think when was the last time you went a full day without checking your social media accounts? What if your favorite social networks completely disappeared tomorrow; would it make you feel empty and depressed?
If you just realized you’re addicted to social media, don’t worry, as most of us are there with you in varying degrees. And it’s not necessarily a reason to go and wipe yourself off all those social networking platforms.
However, if you think quitting is the best solution for you, we won’t stop you. In fact, one of our writers tried quitting social media once, and it was an interesting experience.
As with everything else, social media brings both good and bad things into our lives. At the end of the day, you’re the one who decides whether there’s more help or harm in it for you.
Have you known an addict or been an addict? Are you an addict now?
Unfortunately, addictions come with the human condition. We’ve got alcoholics, drug addicts, sex addicts, workaholics, self-mutilators, and more. You name it, our culture has found it and become addicted to it.
Addiction is defined as anything we do repeatedly that causes harm to ourselves and/or others. The underlying driver to addiction is a general dissatisfaction with your life, your self-image, or identity. In extreme cases, an intense self-hatred and a sense of hopelessness and despair are the foundations of addiction. Are you saying to yourself right now, “I can’t think of anything I’m addicted to”? Well, I’d say to you, “Come on. We’re all addicted to something.” If you don’t think that’s true of you, look through this list with me.
Are you addicted to:
Achievement – Always needing to perform to feel valuable
Self-Pity – Constant feeling of “poor me” and “life is unfair”
Worry – A consistent lack of peace
Drinking – You need a drink to be happy, sleep, or feel connected to people
Being Busy – If you’re alone or still, you feel depressed or lonely
Sex – You can’t stop viewing porn, quit masturbating , or view the others without sexual thoughts.
Social Media – You’re constantly connected to your phone or computer, ignoring the people right in front of you
Gambling – A need to take risk, make money, and feel valued from winning
Self-Sabotage – You can’t hold on to a relationship, you screw up great opportunities, and you can’t allow yourself to succeed.
Yes, you can be addicted to so-called positive things such as achievement. Look at Dale Partridge for example. He struggled with a serious addiction ofbeing busyand achievement. Achievement became part of his identity. He started 6 businesses within 8 years producing over $15 million in revenue. But he didn’t know who was apart from outside praise and achievement. His addiction to work and achievement linked directly with a general dissatisfaction, if not, a downright dislike for who he was. He thought that his identity and worth was based solely in what I accomplished instead of who he was.
The bottom line is this: we all just want to be loved. We want to feel loved. We all deserve love. We starve for connectivity and depth, but we’re seriously scared and often times, lack the basic relational ability to reach out and get it.
So, if you had to choose something, what would you say you’re addicted to? Think about your thoughts for the day. Are there patterns? Ruts? Are there places in your mind that you continue to visit and obsess over during each 24-hour period?
What are they? Be brave and write them down. Let’s begin the healing process.
I want you to pay attention here. You deserve better. You deserve more. You were created for awe and purpose. You were created to love and be loved. The things that grip you don’t have to strangle the life out of you. There is hope and there is a way out.
Today begin telling yourself the opposite of the lies in your head. Begin practicing love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness and self-control. Tell a trusted friend about your addiction. Reach out. Call a group. Don’t wait. This is your life we’re talking about.
You deserve normal. You deserve love, balance, joy, peace, and success. Go after it.
*Before Jesus saved me, I was steeped in and infatuated for most of my teenage years with pornography, writing and reading explicit sexual stories on the Internet, as well as not being celibate with my then boyfriend. I also had an addiction to sexual fantasies and masturbation. After Jesus saved me with his Word, I am now not at all interested, nor do I watch, read, and write, sexual material. Also, I am celibate and recently Jesus healed me from painful addiction to autosexuality, though it is still a journey and I must rely on His strength to not give in to a sudden onset of thoughts (very sudden, so I know the devil sends these thoughts, they are not natural).
*Before Jesus saved me, I was haunted by childhood memories of sexual abuse (both as victim and even perpetrator, experimenting with others). After Jesus saved me, I forgave everyone and also asked for forgiveness, and also, I am extremely happy nor do I give thought to those thoughts brought up by satan to remind me.
*Before Jesus saved me, I was deeply wounded by being rejected and abandoned by my earthly dad (saw him about three times in my life) as well as my mom (she left for NYC three days after I was born, I heard, to pursue her own interests and goals; I only have maybe two childhood memories of her in my mind). After Jesus saved me and allowed my Heavenly Father God to adopt me (he is the Best Father in the whole world), I am set free from those horribly sad feelings, as well as my mom and I are close (My mom has been changed by God also).
*Before Jesus saved me, I was participating, both knowingly and unknowingly, in witchcraft (Harry Potter I read as well), new age, and eastern spiritual activities. I was tormented constantly day and night by demons who actually abused me physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and sexually. I was at the point of suicide. After Jesus saved me, I have peaceful nights of sleep because He blankets me in his mercy, grace, hope, and love.
*Before Jesus saved me, I had the dirtiest mouth, cursing and sometimes yelling. Sometimes if I felt I couldn’t say enough bad words in my angry rant, I would literally growl; that was how bad my temper was. After Jesus saved me, I have found true enjoyment and joy in speaking what is pure, true, holy, lovely, and edifies and helps others. And I am not forced to speak like this. The Holy Spirit in me makes it natural that I speak only good. Also, I don’t have a temper anymore, unless I sinned in some area, and sometimes my old nature peeks through to try and gain entrance in my life again. But when I am in agreement with the Holy Spirit, and walking in Him, it is natural to speak and act only good.
*Before Jesus saved me, I was a selfish Scrooge. I took inventory of my material possessions and money constantly, and if anyone needed anything, I would not give it to them or lie, saying I had nothing. If any item was taken or out of place, I would go on a rampage through the house, threatening to move out. After Jesus saved me, through the Holy Spirit I am at peace and don’t care about keeping a tight hold on items. Also, I freely give money and items with a very joyful heart.
*Before Jesus saved me, I was a raging shopaholic and irresponsible. I’d buy things on credit, intending not to pay at all and go into debt. I would shop when I felt angry, sad, happy, and any other emotion under the sun. I would literally throw my bills behind the bed so as to keep them out of sight and out of mind. I’d blow all my money from paycheck to paycheck, not saving anything. I would not talk with companies when they tried to get payback. After Jesus saved me, I actually have no interest at all in shopping or even malls. Also I have called back some companies and collections agencies, wanting with a joyful and hopeful heart, to pay them back with whatever money I have. I have also started a savings fund for the future.
*Before Jesus saved me, because of my sin and the fact that satan comes to steal, kill, and destroy everything, my personality and mental stability was chipping away, becoming broken. Personality-wise, I lost all my interests and goals that I use to have as a child. I was an empty being, laying around with no emotion or excitement, typing and constantly looking at sin. I even had a monotone, robotic voice at one time, and any one person that would come around, I‘d immediately copy them and have their interests and personality, because I had none to show. Mentally, I was completely abnormal and not fit for society and socialization (full of hatred, envy, and apathy). After Jesus saved me, I got back interests I had as well as never had before, and am extremely excited about them. I also speak and act with joy, and although I still prefer to be alone at times, God has inserted me into lovely groups at church that have become friends.
*Before Jesus saved me, I was slothful, laying in bed all day after work (if I didn’t call out) or school until I would get sore and weak all over. Even worse, on days off, I would literally go the whole day without getting up or eating barely nothing, not even showering. My bed was my prison. After Jesus saved me, I must always move and am excited about life and my goals, dreams, interests, and what God is doing. Oh, and I love to shower.
*Before Jesus saved me, I had no one to talk to. Literally no one. I lost contact with all friends because I never talked, nor did I want to get out of bed or the house to go anywhere. A few times I was alone at home on Christmas, not caring, yet deep down crying to be with others. I even ignored family. After Jesus saved me, he has put me in contact with many loving people at my church, a lot my age, and also I hang out with my family every chance I get. Also, God is the most desirable Friend I have ever had. I am completely satisfied with his goodness, and love, and purity, and His character and personality. He is my best friend, the first one I had once I was saved. He was there when no one else was there.
*Before Jesus saved me, I actually thought I was better than everyone else, even church folk (I am so not kidding! That is how delusional satan makes people in sin)! I thought I did everything better, that I did it right, that I needed no help, and I got jealous and envious of others who did any sort of accomplishment, and I would rush to mimic them and do it better. After Jesus saved me, I saw the deep, disgusting, deceptive pride I sunk into, and realized that without Him and His Spirit helping me every moment of the day now, I would revert back to my sick state of humanity. Everyday the Holy Spirit makes me joyful in my own set of weaknesses (reveling in that Jesus is strong) as well as strengths (enjoying the gifts He has given me for good), and I get excited about other people and what they do as well without coveting or wishing those accomplishments were my own. I feel full of satisfaction, and have no need of filling a void with accomplishments, because Jesus has filled the void.
*Before Jesus saved me I had anorexia. I lost 40 pounds by not eating in one instance (few months) during high school, and would get anxious even after eating a salad or drinking water, and I would run right away to look in the mirror! For a time I was afraid to look in the mirror because I hated myself and what I saw. I would also literally suck in my stomach at ALL TIMES, so as not to even breathe right, sometimes the whole day until I gasped for air and felt headaches. After Jesus saved me, I have only satisfaction in Him instead of looks, although I admit I still struggle with it since I am a human with weaknesses (I am still in the process of learning to breathe right after sucking in my stomach, because I actually forget to breathe, and find that I haven’t had a full breath in minutes). Everyday I only depend on getting my joy from God, and not by other means, and the Holy Spirit actually fills my need with that, with a fullness of joy and love for Him. I am happier now and forget about looks, and even at times, I prefer to have more curves (what a miracle!)
*Before Jesus saved me, I was moving down the road to becoming a full-blown homosexual. I was bisexual, and had interest in woman, and hated men with a passion and was scared of them, even of them looking at me. I wrote homosexual stories, watched homosexual pornography, and was even ready to sign up on a website that catered to individuals who wanted to date in this “lifestyle.” After Jesus saved me, within the same week, these homosexual thoughts and feelings felt VERY foreign to my body. It felt as if these emotions and feelings were being sent to my body from satan and his demons, and these feelings were in opposition with my natural body’s gender. With the Holy Spirit in me, and me agreeing with Him that these feelings were not mine and were from satan, God blocked the feelings, and I actually began to like guys again, and also I began to lose interest in women, and now I don’t have it at all nor do I want it. One time God even showed me homosexuality was from satan, because as I was walking down a hallway at work, a woman passed by, and suddenly, out of nowhere, a demonic male voice in my ear said “She is pretty” as if this demon was trying to convince me. This was when I had no interest in women also, so my body had no inclination at all toward having desires for the woman. The thought was completely foreign and in opposition with my own body’s natural gender’s feelings. I chose not to agree with the demon and shooed the thought away by Jesus and His truth, and suddenly the voice vanished and my body’s feelings stayed completely utterly intact; there was no inkling at all of a homosexual desire in any of my parts. I am completely set free and healed from this intensely deceiving sin by JESUS and His truth, His light, and His precious gift to me, the gift being He died on the cross for EVERY single sin I have ever committed, and then rising the third day to completely defeat satan and his demons and all of sin and death’s power. He HAS set me free and given me every promise in His Holy Word, The Bible, including this fitting verse below:
Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new. 2 Corinthians 5:17
Its very hard to stop an addict. It might be pornography, masturbation, stealing, lying, drugs, and so on.
I remember when i used to lie and steal when growing up. If anything misses in the house, am the first they call, they accuse me even when i didn’t do it. The oldest theft in the book is stealing meat from the pot. 😂😀😁😂 Oh! My God, when i remember those periods i laugh about it. From there i graduated to stealing my mums money to buy movies, clothes and many stuffs. It got bad that one day i didn’t know i was stealing her tithe money, my own was that the money was available at that spot and am enjoying it. Till one day she wanted to pay her tithe and realize it wasn’t complete. The first person she called was me, she asked i refused, lying i have nothing to do with it. Until i was beating, yes the hardest way, i told the truth that i was the one. (Whooping of bum bum is like food in my country, every child must pass that stage 😂😂).
Another thing i did was eating free meal without paying back in school. Whenever i don’t have money, i will go to thr cafteria and order for food, after ordering i will move to the payment section as if i want to pay because there a lot of student buying food. I will use that to cover my tracks, have my sit, and eat my food at peace. Still can believe i was that person. Me and my best friend still laugh about it. But the funniest thing is that it sounds very funny, but to my father upstairs its a sin. When i started realizing my sins, i really felt bad. But thank God He forgave me.
Till now i don’t know how i stopped. God is just wonderful. At this time i realize that you can’t stop alone, but only by the grace of God and divine intervention, with self control.
If you still experiencing an addict and you really tired of it. You want to give up but you see yourself doing it again. Guys have been there and by His grace am still in a process. If He can help stop the addiction of stealing, surely He will see you through. Also try to resist and gradually you will see the result. It is not a day thing nor weeks, nor months, but years. There are many testimonies out there that you can use to trace your path to righteousness.
This just came to my thought on my past addiction and decided to share with you guys. Have a blessed day!!!
I first saw pornography in grade school in magazines my friends had. Soon after seeing those magazines I started a masturbation habit. In high school, I experienced the typical teen hormones and often allowed my mind to fantasize about girls. I also pursued physical relationships with girls.
In college I continued to seek porn sources. My relationship with my girlfriend at the time was deeply affected by the porn I had seen. I was soon consumed with the desire for sex and allowed lust to control my mind. Since I did well academically and had an attractive girlfriend, my pride became an additional foothold for the devil. After college I entered the military, and delved further into pornography in its various forms. I also continued to pursue sexual relationships with women.
I thought that getting married would help me break my porn and masturbation habits. I was wrong. I remember my heart racing with adrenaline as I purchased porn mags from the local convenience store, slightly fearful that I might see someone from church. At the time, I was a group leader for the youth ministry, but the fear of being caught wasn’t enough to keep me from buying porn. After enjoying the porn for a few days, I would throw it away in shame and disgust, resolving never to look at it again. After a few weeks, I’d be back looking for more. It never brought satisfaction, but only a burning desire for more.
When I got connected to the internet, a whole new dimension of temptations hit me. Suddenly I could visit porn sites freely and secretly, anytime I wanted. The internet offered just about anything imaginable in porn, and I found myself looking regularly. I would plan times to surf for porn when my wife was away or after she went to bed. My addiction was steadily consuming me. I knew I had to stop, but didn’t know how to do so.
I knew that God had been calling me back to a relationship with him. I felt the Holy Spirit tugging at my heart and conscience. I started to recognize the deceptive “double life” I was leading: church-going Christian on the outside, sex addict on the inside. I knew it was wrong to look at porn and fantasize about sex, but it seemed too difficult to stop. I could go for 2 or 3 months of “sobriety” before falling again. It seemed like an endless cycle.
The truth about my situation was that I had been building a stronghold for sexual sin for many years by looking at porn, fantasizing and masturbating. This stronghold had become virtually invincible. The images I had viewed over the years were causing my memories to be a constant source of temptation. My porn habit was weakening my marriage and damaging our sex life. I was becoming more excited about looking at porn than being with my wife.
One night in July 1998 at around 2 AM, I could not sleep. I felt a strong prompting to ask God for help in getting free of my sex addiction. Instead of going in to the computer to surf for porn, I went to the living room and got on my knees to pray. I confessed my sin and desire to be free. I asked for God to forgive me and help me. This prayer was a sincere prayer, unlike the many half-hearted prayers I had offered in the past. Though there were no peals of thunder after I prayed, I was able to return to bed and sleep. The next day, I realized that something had changed inside me! God had done a wonderful work in me – I was different – somehow God changed me such that I could resist the urges to view porn and masturbate. I have been completely free of sex addiction since that night!
During the years since then, God has taught me how to walk in sexual purity. I learned about the spiritual side of sexual sin and other temptations. I learned how to receive healing from God and walk with him on a daily basis. I learned how the Holy Spirit plays a key role in helping us live as new persons in Christ. I’ve written about all of these things in the pages of this website in order to help others escape the snare of sex addiction and walk in victory that God has prepared for them.
If you are struggling with a sexual addiction, I want you to know that you too can have freedom. God is the one who can give you reliable help to permanently break addiction. There is no limit to the ways that God can and will move in your life if you ask him to.
Am I the only one still struggling with addiction? Am I the only one who feels guilty whenever I loose myself to the sins of the world?
Have been fighting an addiction for sometime now. I will say am improving and not an everyday thing like before, but I want to stop it for good. Whenever I pray, I feel my prayers won’t be answered because I know what I did, also my father in heaven too. But the guilt is so string, but I later remembered that I shouldn’t leave in condemnation but to remember that grace and the salvation of our lord Jesus Christ has saved me.
I know one day all this will be behind me and I will be free from this addiction and also advise people out there to try to defeat any addiction they face. It’s not an easy process but it’s worth it. I will also need your prayers and advise…