How to Help Without Judging the Needy?

I had to post this and share with you.

It can be difficult to give to the needy without judging the circumstances surrounding the need. But with God’s guidance we can act in generosity and love.

When it comes to helping the needy, it is a given for Christians to display the act of giving without hesitating or judging. And yet, it should be a form of generosity that comes from the heart and not as an obligation. But there are certain scenarios that made me wonder about the act of helping and to what extent can we do it without judging others.

A Few Scenarios:

1. There are lots of scams and illegal activities.

How many of you have encountered this in your lifetime? An example is a letter requesting for monetary help sent to a particular bank account because a certain relative has a serious illness that requires a major operation, only to find out later on that they want to use the money on something else that’s illegal.

2. If it’s not illegal, it is to fulfill a splurge.

Have you ever experienced someone asking you for money to provide for his/her child tuition fee and yet you saw on the person’s Facebook account they bought new bags, a Starbucks coffee, and new gadgets that you, yourself, can’t afford? The danger here is not feeling the bitterness of sharing your hard-earned money with someone who splurged it on wants.

3. Help was given but it wasn’t enough.

Someone asked you for monetary help because of an emergency. Upon looking at your budget, you saw that you can only spare a couple of bucks. You still did give that small amount of money. A month later, you heard from someone that the person you just helped called you heartless for giving only a little amount when they know you can give more.

4. Giving money and food to a person on the street who was dissatisfied with what you’ve given.

And worse, when you gave him a penny, he answered back with an, “Only this? What can I buy with this?” Or when you gave your favorite bread, you saw it in the trash bin a couple of minutes later.

Give Without Expectation or Judging

The list can go on and on. But these scenarios I have provided actually made me realize about the real motive behind my act of giving and helping those who asked for help whether they really need it or not. Indeed, there have to be no expectations on our end. Give without expecting anything in return, so to speak. Not even a “thank you.” If we give with expectations of something in return, we will likely wind up disappointed. We should give because we want to help and only that.

Wisdom and Discernment in Giving

And yet, helping those in need must be accompanied by a great deal of wisdom and discernment on our part, because not all of the “needs” can actually help the person for good. An example is asking for financial assistance only to be used for an addiction like substance abuse.

At this point, the kind of help that we can give isn’t exactly what the person is asking for. But it has to be something deeper and greater than that, and that is pointing the person towards God. We cannot help the person if we tolerate sin, and tolerating sin is offensive to God. That will make us as an instrument for the person to sin more instead of being a helper towards his/her greater good.

Learn how to give without judging

We cannot judge the people who come to us for help. They may have varying needs, and yet this is the perfect moment to ask God in prayer for the Spirit’s leading. This is the part where we cannot rely on our judgment alone lest our weak human emotions be used by the enemy to his advantage. We can’t allow that to happen. There is a possibility we’ll make the wrong decision sometimes still, but if we have God’s wisdom to lead our judgment, we can be assured we are making one that will honor Him and genuinely help those who are in need.

“And do not forget to do good and to share with others, for with such sacrifices God is pleased.” – Hebrews 13:16


Question: What are some practical ways we can begin helping instead of judging?


Credit to:  Christine Lailani Ginete – Rome

Please Stop Judging People. Here’s Why!

To be honest, I struggle with this. As a motivational blogger and an easy going person, I find myself feeling or acting like I’m more valuable than others.

But I’m not.

Every human life is worth exactly the same. And any action or behavior or statement that leads anyone to believe otherwise, is wrong.

Culture encourages us to discuss other people’s faults. To tear each other down based on looks or the mistakes of our past.

But are we not human? Have we not failed as well? Is determining someone’s worth not more than the clothes they wear or the scars on their life? It reminds me of a statement I’ve read in the Bible, “Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.”

This video is a profound reminder of how much depth we miss when we judge those around us. Will you join me in reconsidering a stranger’s value and, possibly, even count them above yourself?

Do you struggle with this? How will this change the way you think about people? Let me know in the comments below..

Photos: Skip A Meal: Mission Durunmi Abuja Nigeria

Courtesy of: Women of Grace (His Treasure House International Church)

It was another successful mission outreach on Saturday 16th March, 2019 from the women of grace group in my church. The funniest thing here is that am the only guy in the group. #proudofme

There is nothing in this life as great as sharing love, and giving back to the community.

Giving back to society is in fact vague and misty in nature. There’s so much that we procure from society. There are so many strata of people who make up the whole population of a nation. But they are different from each other. Some are affluent and some are mere stragglers of survival. In many countries, there are masses who don’t even have excess to basic day-to-day requirements. There are also people who have so much in excess, that the amounts if distributed, would solve many problems plaguing most areas around the world.

Here are some deep quotes that relates to my topic.

“If there be any truer measure of a man than by what he does, it must be by what he gives.”
―Robert South

“If you knew what I know about the power of giving, you would not let a single meal pass without sharing it in some way.”

“We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.”
―Winston Churchill

I leave you with this. “Part of being a person is about helping others.”

More photos coming soon.

Do Something For Someone That Cannot Return The Favour


If you study the life of Jesus, you will notice that He gave up a lot of what could have been ‘popularity‘ for the sake of the poor, the enslaved and the sick. One of the primary reasons that Jesus was so disliked by the Jewish leaders of that day was that He didn’t give them a lot of attention. Instead, He was always focused on the needs of the people around Him.

This is a great example for how we should live our lives. Like Jesus, our focus should also be on the needs of those around us, not on gaining popularity with people on similar levels to us. We need to stop focusing on what is going to make us seem more popular or more recognized and follow the example of helping the less fortunate that Jesus set.

Whether we are blessed with good health, a solid financial situation, or just a free man or woman, we all need to start thinking about ways to help those who are less fortunate in these areas. As we decided to go help an serve these people, let what we do come out of the overflow of our love for what Jesus did for us all on the cross, never focused on what is in it for us. – All of us were slaves and in bondage, but Jesus decided that dying for each of us was worth more than living a life of popularity.

In my life, helping others that cannot help me has encouraged me remain humble and to fall more in love with God. Each time I help someone out of the kindness of my heart, I am reminded to continue each day to become more and more like Jesus. Someone once told me, Those of us that live in freedom and abundance are responsible for those who don’t.” I couldn’t agree with this more. As a follower of Christ, I seek to humbly follow the examples that He set! I encourage you to do the same in your areas of influence.

Matthew 25:34-45
“Then the King will say to those on his right, ‘Come, you who are blessed by my Father; take your inheritance, the kingdom prepared for you since the creation of the world. For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.’

“Then the righteous will answer him, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you something to drink? When did we see you a stranger and invite you in, or needing clothes and clothe you? When did we see you sick or in prison and go to visit you?’

“The King will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.

“They also will answer, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry or thirsty or a stranger or needing clothes or sick or in prison, and did not help you?’

He will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did not do for one of the least of these, you did not do for me.

How To Be Generous Even If You’re Broke

Illustration of donation support iconsWhen you break generosity down to its raw form, it’s made up of two parties: one with surplus and the other with need. And the decision to be generous is a form of love.

In 2015, I decided I wouldn’t wait until I was “wealthy” to start giving. Generosity was a journey I desired to embark on now.

I believed generosity was less like an arrow and more like a boomerang. It always comes back to you.

But my giving at the time consisted of whatever I have in my pocket to give to the beggars around. Later I graduated to having a percentage of my per month income to give to the needy. Which was great! It was a solid starting point and it helped form the perspective on money that I needed at that time in my life.

But eventually, I began feeling small. Almost like my contribution wasn’t truly making a difference. At the time, my income wasn’t high and I just couldn’t afford to pay off debt, survive in Abuja, and give 5%-10% to a cause that I cared about.

But then I realized generosity is rarely about money.

It’s about time. It’s about friendship. It’s about opportunities, introductions, and bro-deals. And sure, it was about money too. So here’s what I did:

1. I Created a Time Account

Over the next few years, I created not only a giving account at my bank, but a time account on my computer. I decided I would donate 4 hours per month helping people do things like move their house, design a business card, or just give them a friendly introduction to an important contact.

2. I Paid For Dinner

This is my favorite way to give. For such a small cost it seems to create a huge sense of gratitude. It might be because the cost of dinner is a real necessity. We go into our meal believing we will be covering our portion of the tab and then, BAM! Someone picks up the check… and a rush of financial relief floods in. What a gift. Next time you’re at dinner with a friend, pick up the tab. I promise your kindness will be returned.

3. I Gave More Effectively Than Anyone Else

I believe every human life is worth exactly the same. This means the child who needs to eat in Nigeria is just as valuable as the man who needs money to fund his ALS treatment in America. What this also means is your generosity toward either of these individuals is equal. But the cost… is drastically different. It may only take N10,000 to feed a child in Nigeria for a month while $5 wouldn’t even dent a fraction of ALS treatment in America. I call this effective self- denial. I began looking for charities where my money had an impact somewhere else in the world. For example, for $10 you can provide someone clean water for 10 years with Living Water International. Or for $7 you can provide life-saving vaccinations to a child for 10 years with End 7. Also you can give to Joyce Meyer Ministries doing great to humanity. It was charities like these that made me realize that generosity, even in its smallest form, can still be significant.

The question is, will you join me? Not that I earn a lot or i boast am the best giver in the world, but we can always do better and put others in need to whatever need we have.

Do you give to anyone? Do you support a cause or maybe your church? What’s stopped you in the pas? Let me know in the comments below…

Pictures: The 6th Edition Of The Skip A Meal Initiative

Charity is the highest prayer; as God is love, God cannot ignore Himself.

Skip A Meal Initiative

You have been given a mind to solve problems for others, a heart to feel compassion for others, a mouth to speak kind words to others, ears to hear the plight of others, eyes to look out for others, and hands to sustain others.

His Treasure House International is out again with another wonderful humanitarian outreach on Saturday 13th October, 2018.

This outreach will never be possible if not for the idea and actualization of this initiative by our senior Pastor and Pastor Mrs. Uwu’bamen. Also can’t forget the team and the efforts of the strong women behind the success of this initiative “Women of Grace”.
The man of noble character is humble before those less educated than him, compassionate to those less fortunate than him, and kind to those inferior to him.

Pictures: Meadow Hall Foundation “Back To School Drive”

Pictures: Meadow Hall Foundation

Meadow Hall Foundation through its School Adoption Programme (SAP) provides infrastructural.and educational support to schools, pupils, teachers, and the host communities.

It was a successful outreach with Meadow Hall group last Friday. Over 400 pupils who are have been assisted to get settled in this academical session. It wouldn’t have come through of not for you guys kind donation and support.

Am very happy and glad that we at Motivated And Free did our bit and supported this great initiative. We use this medium to thank the management of Meadow Hall Foundation, for trusting us and making us one of their media partners. God bless.

Help Save Baby Oghene-Marho Peace

I hate this! I hate this so much. God have mercy. This breaks my heart. I can’t imagine a young child going though this Lord. Please help. Regrann from @owambenaija – This 4months old has a HEART CONDITION and needs surgery .
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TEMPTATIONS come in diverse forms and so when we pray “Lead us not into temptation…” most of us still take it for granted. First I am personally appealing to all MEN and fathers reading this TONIGHT to PLEASE take out a little share from the Friday night /weekend groove money and assist a fellow father trying to save his child.

Nothing is more devastating than the pain of parents being helpless and unable to save their innocent child.
I have spoken to this Young man, he doesn’t have #15Million for the life saving surgery his 4months old baby OgheneMarho .

I appeal to us all, if 15,000 of us can give just #1k each today, we can help this little child’s live.

Mothers who know how vulnerable their little angels are and Ladies still praying to God for the gift of motherhood please also transfer the little you can to this child’s account.
I will provide the father and family’s phone number if you need to speak to the father/them personally.

The doctors are also available to speak to any organization interested in lending a hand.

Please for the sake of humanity, I plead with all kindhearted individuals reading this to just transfer #1k to this account and it’s also fine if you can afford to please give according to your capacity.

May God keep delivering us from temptation.

ORHERUATA PEACE OGHENEMARHO , ACCOUNT NO :3127623347. FIRST BANK.

To those also going to PRAY tonight for this child, Atleast share this on your page as we never know whose PAGE the angles of help might be following.

#SaveBabyMarho

Giving To Charity When You Don’t Have Money To Spare

“Being unwanted, unloved, uncared for, forgotten by everybody. I think that is a much greater hunger, a much greater poverty, than the person who has nothing to eat.” – Mother TeresaLet us beg from Our Lady to make our hears "meek and humble" like her Son's was. We learn humility through accepting humiliations cheerfully. Do not let a chance pass you by. It is so easy to be proud, harsh, moody and selfish but we have been created for better things. Why stoop down to things that will spoil the beauty of our hearts?    - Mother Teresa

The life of Mother Teresa is a great example of a charity giver and lover of kindness to humanity. She believed in loving people more than yourself and do the little you can do to contribute to one’s life, adding a smile to someone’s face can go a long way.

Portraying my point to the subject matter, giving to charity when you don’t have money to spare. This can have a negative effect on you. However, if you value being able to help others and contribute, you may feel upset or even guilty that you’re no longer in a position to do so. Or perhaps you’ve rarely or never given to charity in the past, but you’ve been moved by the suffering caused by the financial crisis – yet you yourself have little money to give.

The good news is that there are a number of ways you can make a real difference, without much money. Here are three ways that you could put into practice today, whatever your financial circumstances. Why not give one a try?

You might not be able to contribute N5,000/month to a good cause, but how about N200- N500? Foregoing a fast food package once a month could give you enough for this.

Remember that next time you think that your N200 or N500 note won’t make any difference. It’s like voting; each individual’s act may be as insignificant as a single drop of water, but add those drops together and you have a river strong and powerful enough to sweep change across the world.

Save Your Spare Change

Do your pockets end up full of small change? Many of us have a jar of coins gathering dust at home. How about saving up all your nickles and dimes for a month, and donating them to charity (dropping them into a donations jar is an easy way to do this). You’re very unlikely to miss them!“Go out into the world today and love the people you meet. Let your presence light new light in the hearts of people.” - Mother Teresa

You could take this idea further by asking friends or colleagues to join in. How about putting a big jar in the kitchen (or some other communal location) at work, and asking people to drop in any change that they have? One of the reasons why many of us contribute little or nothing to charity is because we just don’t get around to it – you’ll be giving your colleagues an easy and quick way to change the world!

Get Sponsored to Do Something

If you don’t have any money of your own to give to charitable causes, how about giving someone else’s? No, I’m not suggesting a Robin Hood plan of robbing from the rich and giving to the poor … instead, you ask people to sponsor you to do something. (If possible, get your whole family, or some work colleagues, on board.)

Your options here are really only limited by your imagination. And don’t think that you’re too old, or that your kids are too young; tiny children can participate in simple events like sponsored walks, and one a person who is between 70 and 79 years old I know has just abseiled from the roof of a hospital building to raise money for their geriatric ward.

Doing a sponsored event is also a great way to break out of your comfort zone, or to do something you’ve always wanted to try but never plucked up the courage to attempt!

Here are just a few of the many sponsored events you might consider:

  • Ask people to sponsor you to lose weight (get healthy and raise money for a good cause)
  • A sponsored walk (anything from your local park with the kids, to walking the Great Wall of China)
  • Running a marathon or taking part in an organized cycle event
  • Abseiling, bungee-jumping, hang-gliding…
  • Using one of your skills: For example. If you’re a writer, how about organizing a “sponsored write”?

Meadow Hall Foundation Presents: Back To School Drive Project

In the words of Late Mother Teresa.

“Not all of us can do great things. But we can do small things with great love.”

“I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love.” – Mother Teresa

Meadow Hall foundation started this project “Back to school drive” to challenge the low factor of children having access into schools or school materials. The foundation is keen on reaching out to 1000 children and more to enroll them back to school, instead of staying at home or roaming the streets.

For your donations, kindly send to: Meadow Hall Charity Foundation (Access Bank 0695140643)

Your contribution will go a long way for these children.

For more information, sponsors, or partnership;

Email- info@meadowhallfoundation.org or

Call- 07058012288

Thank you for your interest and contribution.

Will Suffering Ever End?

Image result for woman suffering

Would you say….

  • Yes?
  • No?
  • Maybe?

A lot of questions have been raised about sufferings in the world. Watching the news lately is so scary as people tend to portray hate with one another, nature battling with humans, hunger, terrorism, and so many more…

Sometimes we feel God has turned His back away from the world, letting evil things happen to anyone who deserves the punishment. As a believer everything is in the bible, the revelation is already coming to pass as we pass each day just by His Grace.

Please will like to know your contribution to this issue. And how we can be of aides to affected victims of war, love one another, and also spread the word of God.

Photos: Skip A Meal 5: Galadimawa Abuja #gospeltakeover #humanitarian

The power of human empathy, leading to collective action, saves lives, and frees prisoners. Ordinary people, whose personal well-being and security are assured, join together in huge numbers to save people they do not know, and will never meet….Unlike any other creature on this planet, humans can learn and understand, without having experienced. They can think themselves into other people’s places….We do not need magic to change the world, we carry all the power we need inside ourselves already: we have the power to imagine better- J. K Rowlings The happiness on the face of people when you show a little act of generosity and kindness is so great. I don’t know how you feel when you do this, but for me it’s a great relief, because all what I think move away. Skip a meal is an initiative established by my senior Pastors in church (His Treasure House Abuja) Pastor Seun and Pastor Godwin Uwubamen.

By His grace this is the 5th edition. Yaaay!!! We thank God. Today’s outreach was challenging but God did it and it came to pass successfully.

As Christians, the Bible is clear throughout its pages that we’re called to give generously. Even in the book of Exodus chapter 35, we see the Israelites all generously giving the materials and time to build the tabernacle. If any of those people decided to withhold the materials they owned or the skills they had, the tabernacle wouldn’t have come together.

Move forward some in the Bible, and in Malachi 3:10-12, giving is the one thing God tells us to test him in.

In the New Testament God himself gave us his only son because he loves us so much, and that Son died on a cross for us. It sets a model that generosity in God’s people should be sacrificial. Here’s a small sampling of what the Bible has to say about giving and generosity.

Hebrews 13:16

And do not forget to do good and to share with others, for with such sacrifices God is pleased.

Watch out for Skip a meal 6 #gospeltakeover

True Story: It Is Between You And God #Inspiration

Each time I read this story over and over again, it makes a deeper meaning to me. So I send to you, may be it might touch you the way I’m touched.

One day a man saw an old lady, stranded on the side of the road, but even in the dim light of day, he could see she needed help. So he pulled up in front of her Mercedes and got out. His Pontiac was still sputtering when he approached her.

Even with the smile on his face, she was worried. No one had stopped to help for the last hour or so. Was he going to hurt her? He didn’t look safe; he looked poor and hungry.

He could see that she was frightened, standing out there in the cold. He knew how she felt. It was that chill which only fear can put in you.

He said, “I’m here to help you, ma’am. Why don’t you wait in the car where it’s warm? By the way, my name is Bryan Anderson.”

Well, all she had was a flat tire, but for an old lady, that was bad enough.

Bryan crawled under the car looking for a place to put the jack, skinning his knuckles a time or two. Soon he was able to change the tire. But he had to get dirty and his hands hurt.

As he was tightening up the lug nuts, she rolled down the window and began to talk to him. She told him that she was from St. Louis and was only just passing through. She couldn’t thank him enough for coming to her aid.

Bryan just smiled as he closed her trunk. The lady asked how much she owed him. Any amount would have been all right with her. She already imagined all the awful things that could have happened had he not stopped.

Bryan never thought twice about being paid.

This was not a job to him. This was helping someone in need, and God knows there were plenty, who had given him a hand in the past. He had lived his whole life that way, and it never occurred to him to act any other way.

He told her that if she really wanted to pay him back, the next time she saw someone who needed help, she could give that person the assistance they needed, and Bryan added, “And think of me.”

He waited until she started her car and drove off. It had been a cold and depressing day, but he felt good as he headed for home, disappearing into the twilight.

A few miles down the road the lady saw a small cafe. She went in to grab a bite to eat, and take the chill off before she made the last leg of her trip home. It was a dingy looking restaurant. Outside were two old gas pumps. The whole scene was unfamiliar to her. The waitress came over and brought a clean towel to wipe her wet hair. She had a sweet smile, one that even being on her feet for the whole day couldn’t erase. The lady noticed the waitress was nearly eight months pregnant, but she never let the strain and aches change her attitude. The old lady wondered how someone who had so little could be so giving to a stranger. Then she remembered Bryan .

After the lady finished her meal, she paid with a hundred dollar bill. The waitress quickly went to get change for her hundred dollar bill, but the old lady had slipped right out the door. She was gone by the time the waitress came back. The waitress wondered where the lady could be. Then she noticed something written on the napkin.

There were tears in her eyes when she read what the lady wrote: “You don’t owe me anything. I have been there too. Somebody once helped me out, the way I’m helping you. If you really want to pay me back, here is what you do: Do not let this chain of love end with you.”

Under the napkin were four more $100 bills.

Well, there were tables to clear, sugar bowls to fill, and people to serve, but the waitress made it through another day. That night when she got home from work and climbed into bed, she was thinking about the money and what the lady had written. How could the lady have known how much she and her husband needed it? With the baby due next month, it was going to be hard….

She knew how worried her husband was, and as he lay sleeping next to her, she gave him a soft kiss and whispered soft and low, “Everything’s going to be all right. I love you, Bryan Anderson.”

There is an old saying “What goes around comes around.” Today, I sent you this story, and I’m asking you to pass it on .. Let this light shine.

Good friends are like stars. You don’t always see them, but you know they are always there.

Do good to all people, don’t lose your good attitude, it pays heavily.

It’s between you and God.

*_Your ‘Kindness’ may be treated as your weakness, still be kind._*
*_Your ‘Help’ to others may go unnoticed, still be helpful._*
*_People may cheat you if you are ‘Honest’, still be honest._*
*_People may often forget your good deeds, but always do good._*
*_It is never between you and them; it’s between ‘You’ and ‘GOD’._*

Photo credit: Google

Photos: Skip A Meal 4 From His Treasure House Church Abuja

What a successful outreach today with the team of Skip A Meal, reaching out to the children and mothers of Damagaza village Abuja.

Personally I want to thank my senior Pastors for this vision and initiative. 

Pastor Seun

Pastor Godwin

Daddy and Mummy Uwuba’men, God will continue to strengthen you and bless your home in Jesus name.

Team at work

The village representative

Mum’s happy to have something for the afternoon

Lovely children waiting for lunch

The Team

Pastor Seun in action

Group picture with the team and some children