Guest Post: This Is For Anyone Who Feels Like They’re Never Going To Find Their Own Path In Life

If you are someone who is afraid that you’ll never find your path in life, that you’ll never hit your stride, that you’ll never discover what you love, or find a place that feels like home, or a person with whom you want to plant roots — please know that you are not alone.

The things about life is that it doesn’t happen until it happens. We don’t know what we don’t know until we do.

It is so challenging to exist in a space where you are a stranger to yourself, because it makes you feel like the road will never rise up to meet you. It makes you feel like there is no perfect career, there is no perfect partner, there is no perfect city to call your own.

The truth is that what you’re looking for isn’t outside of you, but buried deep within.

You already know your path.

It’s embedded into your cells.

It reveals itself every time you get a twinge in your heart, a feeling of resonance, an interest, a passion, an explosion of emotion.

It is present in every room you are in.

It is with you all of the time.

There is no path to find, because you are your own path. If where you are right now is confusion and uncertainty, then what you need to feel and metabolize is confusion and uncertainty. Through allowing yourself to sit with these feelings, you will emerge on the other side with clarity.

Too many people spend too many years seeking outside of themselves, instead of looking within.

They imagine that the perfect job will give them the right identity, that the ideal partner will hand them the life they always wanted. They assume that home is a place they discover, when really, it is a space they create.

You are at home within your bones, and eventually, you’ll begin to accept that you are where you’re supposed to be.

There are more potential partners out in the world than you could ever imagine, and when the time is right, you’ll find the one that’s right for you.

Your life purpose is not just one thing, it’s a collection of things, some you act on every day, some that won’t come to fruition for many years. When you’re ready, you’ll arrive at the intersection of your interests and talents and you will find the gift you were always meant to give the world.

You can’t rush this.

You aren’t supposed to have every answer on demand.

It’s not that you have to search your soul to know what’s right, but that you are developing your persona to fully inhabit and embrace all that your soul wants to create and experience.

You are already on the right path, because there is nowhere else you could possibly be.

Whatever you are learning in this season is what you need to learn. Whatever you are feeling is what you need to feel. Whatever you are realizing is what you need to realize.

Your life does not begin one day when you figure out every answer, it is a constant unfolding.

One day, you just wake up and realize it.

Originally written by Brianna Weist

Daily Digest: The Strength To Deal And Be Comfortable With Change

Many people don’t like change. It’s a fact! Former US President Woodrow Wilson said, “If you want to make enemies, try to change something”.

If you change nothing - napkin concept

Often when we grow weary or simply become bored with a situation, we get restless and begin to pray: “Oh God! Something has to change in my life!” Then when God tries to bring change into our lives, we say, “Lord, what are you doing? I don’t think i can take this change!” We often find ourselves caught in the tension between wanting change and scared to change.

Good examples of this is change of job, moving from one house to another, change of your children school, and so on. Recently, I was praying for a second job to be able to meet up with the bills. I prayed to God for one and also did my part applying. I got a support job, which isn’t bad at all. But the fear came when i tried to fit in the hours I will be working and how to manage both together without missing a shift. Instead of complaining of the difficulties, I prayed for clarity and guidiance throughout my shift for the week. Also, when me and my family relocated to the United Kingdom, we were scared of starting over. We are eight months now in the country, thanks to God for His guidiance and grace.

Thank God. He never changes. Because He is always the same, we can trust Him through any changing circumstances or situation.  (read Hebrews 13:8, Malachi 3:6). This should give us great courage and comfort when we face changes in our lves. We do not need to fear change; we can handle it, because God remains the same.

Prayer: Father, I am so thankful that I don’t have to fear change. You never change and You are my strong tower. I stand on the firm foundation of Your word, and i will live in peace, even when things are changing all around me.

1 New York Times Bestselling Author Joyce Meyer Books | FaithWords

This piece credit goes to Joyce Meyer. Highlighting how we can deal with change through prayer. I was fascinated by the piece, which made me write a few personal experience to it.

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The Tiny Little Secret That Gives You Permission To Enjoy Anything

Boy I love a cheesy title every once in a while. Like the one above. Yes, I know it’s cheesy, but you know what? I decided to like it. Even more, I decided to enjoy it.

And with that, the secret – because there is a secret, the title didn’t lie – is already suggested.

Ok, let’s not waste more time on this: the secret is decision. The conscious decision to enjoy stuff. Time spent enjoying is time well spent. You can’t be really miserable if you consciously enjoy something. So, if you really want to enjoy anything, all you have to do is to decide you’re gonna do that. That’s all. That’s the secret.

I’m not saying to be delusional, to fake enjoyment when you’re hurt. Hurt happens. And it’s real. Pain is real. I’m not saying to deny it. But try to enjoy the fact that you can still feel pain. The fact that you’re still alive. After a while the pain will go away. It’s bound to be like this, everything changes. The pain, the pleasure, the sadness, the joy, all of them are going to fade away. That’s our condition on this earth.

We can’t control that. We can’t stop time in its track. We can’t freeze this second and relive it again and again and again. Time will catch us from behind and crash us, moving forward.

The only thing we can control is how we react to this change. That’s the secret, the reaction, the conscious decision we take while witnessing the change. Circumstances are blending around us and sometimes they’re perceived as good, sometimes as bad. But beyond good and bad there’s this basic pleasure, this unexplainable feeling of fulfillment that you’re still here, in the stream, existing.

How Do You Stay In a Positive Mindset and Why Is It Important?

Hi guys and happy new week.

True, it seems like the world is not a nice place to live in for you. It has so many defects, problems and it’s not at all perfect. But this is what you have got and you have a free will to make changes and modify it in the best version of itself. So, the first step to change anything is to have a positive belief that you can change it. Also, things don’t change quickly, you need to stay positive throughout. So, How do you stay in a positive mindset and why it is important?

First thing first, let’s know what before the how.

What does positive thinking mean?

Positive thinking is just a way of processing thoughts in your mind that benefits you and has a positive impact on your life.

In particular, You can think of positive thinking as being a way of thinking that:

  • Helps you achieve something you always desired.
  • Helps you feel better and rise above sadness.
  • Is useful to your daily household & a professional job and ultimately leads to improving your life.

With such beneficial qualities, a positive mindset helps you and serves a practical, useful purpose in your day to day life.
This is what makes it different from the useless negative thoughts and thinking that don’t help you at all.

What is the importance of positivity in life?

Positive thinking is basically the practice of focusing on the good in any given situation. But it doesn’t mean you ignore reality or make light of problems. It simply means to have an optimistic attitude and approach the good and bad in life with the expectation that things will be alright. It can have a huge impact on your physical and mental health.

We have learned about positivity and now we move to why is it important to have a positive mindset?

There are certainly many benefits to adopting a positive mindset. Here are 11 benefits of Positive Thinking for students, employees, old and young people, veteran or naive, literally everyone who thinks and thinks a lot. Positive Mindset provides you:

  1. A more worthwhile life: the more you add positive value to your life and positive thinking, the more worthwhile life is for you. just by good thinking, you improve your chances of being happy to a massive percentage.
  2. Greater confidence: Henry ford – “If you think you can, or you think you can’t either way, you’re right.” the more you believe you can achieve things, the more self-confidence you have.
  3. Higher self-esteem: As you start respecting yourself and the value you see in yourself, the higher your sense of self-worth gets.
  4. More happiness and enjoyment: the more positiveness you see in your life, the happier you become, and the more you enjoy life.
  5. Feeling stronger: as your confidence and self-esteem increase due to positive thinking, you also feel stronger and more powerful.
  6. More energy: positive mindset often motivates and energizes you to achieve things.
  7. More peace of mind: the earlier you start liking your own company, the more your mind will be at peace. And a peaceful mind provides you the better solutions and better actions.
  8. More success: having more energy, more self-esteem, and more self-confidence leads to more success.
  9. Enjoyable interactions with others: Everyone likes a smiling face and everyone wants a healthy and positive group. So, your jolly behavior is going to attract a happier friend circle.
  10. Better sleep & health: more peaceful emotions mean less stressful, negative feelings that will definitely be going to affect your physical self. Ultimately, you enjoy the health benefits of positive thinking, including a better quality of sleep.
  11. Greater clarity of mind: Since you’ve got a choice, missing it in vain is not a good idea. Instead, think in the direction which benefits you instead of the negative ways in which hurt you.

There are numerous benefits of positive thinking. It helps you achieve your goals irrespective of how difficult it is. Whenever an odd situation comes into your life and your mind becomes stressed, with the help of positive thinking you can overcome the stress and become motivated to move on. You become a more charming person and it enhances your relationship with people. The easiest positive thinking trick is just focusing on finding the outcome & solution instead of being stuck in negative thoughts and focusing on how it can go wrong and why it ever happened.

How do you stay in a positive mindset?

Positive thinking is often achieved through a couple of different techniques that are proven effective, like positive self-talk and positive imagery. Here are some tips to get you started that can help you train your brain to keep a positive mindset.

  • Focus on the good things

Challenging situations and obstacles are a part of life. When you’re faced with one, focus on the good things no matter how small or seemingly insignificant they seem. If you look for it, you can always find the proverbial silver lining in every cloud — even if it’s not immediately obvious. For example, if someone cancels plans, focus on how it frees up time for you to catch up on a TV show or other activity you enjoy.

  • Practice gratitude

Practicing gratitude has been shown to reduce stress, improve self-esteem, and foster resilience even in very difficult times. So, every now and then Think of people, moments, or things that bring you some quiet comfort & happiness and thank them for a minimum of once each day. This can be thanking a co-worker for helping with a project, a loved one for washing the dishes, or your dog for the unconditional love they give you.

  • Keep a gratitude journal

I remember a saying – “To get more, firstly, thank for what you have“. It is always the easiest way to get what you want. Start by writing down the things you’re grateful for and it will improve your optimism and sense of well-being. You can do this by writing in a gratitude journal every day, or jotting down a list of things you’re grateful for. In hard times, just read the list. It could be anything, from the smallest things to the biggest things and that will change your thoughts.

  • Open yourself up to humor

Remember the quote “laughter is the best medicine“. Well, it actually is.

Studies have found that laughter lowers stress, anxiety, and depression. It also improves coping skills, mood, and self-esteem. Be open to humor in all situations, especially the difficult ones, and give yourself permission to laugh. It instantly lightens the mood and makes things seem a little less difficult. Even if you’re not feeling it; pretending or forcing yourself to laugh can improve your mood and lower stress.

  • Spend time with positive people

Negativity and positivity have been shown to be contagious. Consider the people with whom you’re spending time. Have you noticed how someone during a bad mood can bring down almost everyone during a room? A positive person has the other effect on others.

Being around positive people has been shown to enhance self-esteem and increase your chances of reaching goals. Surround yourself with people who will lift you up and help you see the bright side. Such people not only help you lift your mood but also make you feel better about yourself. They help you feel more confident.

  • Practice positive self-talk

We tend to be the hardest on ourselves and be our own worst critic. Over time, this can cause you to form a negative opinion of yourself that can be hard to shake. To stop this, you’ll need to be mindful of the voice in your head and respond with positive messages, also known as “Positive self-talk”.

Research shows that even a small shift in the way you talk to yourself can influence your ability to regulate your feelings, thoughts, and behavior under stress. Here’s an example of positive self-talk: Instead of thinking “I really messed that up,” try “Let’s try it another way.”

You should treat yourself the way you’d treat your best friend. You wouldn’t want them to doubt themselves & feel demotivated. You should hype yourself, motivate yourself, you should tell yourself that no matter how hard something is, you can do it. If you fail at something, you shouldn’t just give up. You should try it again.

  • Identify your areas of negativity

Take a good look at the different areas of your life and identify the ones in which you tend to be the most negative. Not sure? Ask a trusted friend or colleague. Chances are, they’ll be able to offer some insight. A co-employee might tell you that you tend to be negative at work. Your spouse may notice that you get especially negative while driving. Tackle one area at a time.

  • Start every day on a positive note

Create a ritual during which you begin off every day with something uplifting and positive. Here are a couple of ideas:

  • Tell yourself that it’s going to be a great day or any other positive affirmation.
  • Listen to a happy and positive song or playlist.
  • Share some positivity by giving a compliment or doing something nice for someone.

Actions Speak Louder Than Words Quotes to Kickstart Your Motivation

Guest post by Henrik Edberg.

It’s so easy to get stuck in thinking. In talking about what you want to do. In dreaming.

To a large part simply because it’s easier than taking action and step by step keep moving forward to achieve your tasks, goals and dreams.

The inner resistance towards taking action is most often there. And the fear of failing can also hold you back.

Here are some actions that speak louder than words quotes to help you.

“Words are from the lips, actions are from the heart.”
Rashida Costa

“The superior man acts before he speaks, and afterward speaks according to his actions.”
Confucius

“Rather than wait to be discovered, discover yourself. Whatever it is that you intend to do later, start doing it now, get good at it, and show people what you’ve done. Actions speak louder than words.”
Steve-O

“Now the thing is not to get into unnecessary quarrels by talking too much and not to indicate any weakness by talking too much; let our actions speak for themselves.”
Henry L. Stimson

“Great thoughts speak only to the thoughtful mind, but great actions speak to all mankind.”
Theodore Roosevelt

“A well done is better than well said.”
Benjamin Franklin

“Actions speak louder than words; let your words teach and your actions speak.”
Anthony of Padua

“Action speaks louder than words but not nearly as often.”
Mark Twain

“A promise is a cloud; fulfillment is rain.”
Arabian Proverb

“It is easy to talk about what we are going to do, but it doesn’t mean anything until we take action and make it happen.”
Catherine Pulsifer

“Time is never enough — enough is the action that you take in a given time.”
Kangoma Kindembo

“You do not write your life with words… You write it with actions. What you think is not important. It is only important what you do.”
Patrick Ness

“The world can only be grasped by action, not by contemplation. The hand is the cutting edge of man.”
Jacob Bronowski

“Be content to act, and leave the talking to others.”
Baltasar Gracian

10 Quick Tips to Make Someone Happy Today

Since you get more joy out of giving joy to others, you should put a good deal of thought into the happiness that you are able to give.” #quote
Eleanor Roosevelt

One of the best ways to create a happier life for yourself is to make other people happier.

Why?

  • You see it. You’ll feel happier as someone’s face lights up with joy.
  • You did a good thing. You’ll feel happier because you feel you have done a good thing. And so your self-esteem shoots up too.
  • You get what you give. In the long run you tend to be treated by others as you treat them. Plus, the way you treat and think about others also tends to be the way you treat and think about yourself.

So how can you make someone happy today?

Here are 10 quite tips you can start doing today. Pick one and see how it can affect someone in your life.

1. Give a sincere compliment. Many positive things tend to go unsaid. So give someone a sincere compliment today. It can mean especially much if it’s for something that is close to the other person’s heart. Or something he or she has been putting in a good effort with like getting into better shape for the last few months.

2. Hold the door open for a few extra seconds. It doesn’t take much of an effort but it can put a smile on someone’s face.

3. Express your gratitude for what is too often taken for granted. We may sometimes take what others do a bit too much for granted. Like the food they cook, how they keep doing their job consistently each and every day or how to they are there to listen when we need it.

4. Encourage. The world can be a tough and discouraging place at times. So encourage someone who is in a negative situation at the moment. Add your own perhaps more grounded and optimistic perspective on the situation to lessen his or her worries and perhaps exaggerated fears.

5. Tell a good – or terrible – joke. Or a funny story about something that happened to you last week.

6. Share something funny you found online. Play one of your favorite clips from a stand-up show you love if you are out of jokes and good stories at the moment.

7. Share a Spotify-playlist with the most inspiring and uplifting songs you know. Send it to a friend that needs it right now. Or share it with family, friends or co-workers on social media.

8. Give a stranger a compliment. Few things can brighten a day like getting a kind and unexpected compliment from someone you pass by or you have just met. So take a few seconds and give that to someone you encounter today and tell her how nice her shoes, hat or hairstyle looks. Or ask him where he where he got that cool t-shirt or umbrella.

9. Help out practically with advice. If a friend needs some help then ask someone you know who has been in that situation for advice. Or do a bit of online research to find what he she might be looking for.

10. Give a hug. It unstresses and it can disrupt negative thoughts and change someone’s mood surprisingly quickly. Use when appropriate though.

11. Smile. Even if you’re only spending 30 seconds on talking to the cashier in the supermarket checkout line.

12. Just listen. It’s sometimes all that’s needed to help someone out of a negative headspace.

13. Bring the positivity. If you bring positivity and an open, happy and good energy into a conversation for example then that tends to spread and the two of you or more will have happier lunch break, evening down at the pub or coffee date in the crisp autumn sunshine.

14. Share some of your tasty homemade cookies. Or bread, ice cream or jerky.

15. Let someone into your lane while you’re driving. It can unstress his or her day quite a bit.

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Tip 4: How To Help Soneone Get More Help

If it feels like the person is really struggling to cope:

  • Would you like to get some help?
  • Have you tried contacting your GP?
  • Would you like me to accompany you?
  • Did you know you don’t have to be feeling suicidal to call Samaritans?
  • Samaritans is free, 24hrs a day if you’re feeling low or worried too.
  • If it helps, you can talk to me or anyone trust anytime.

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Reminder: A Healthy Mindset Is Not Believing That Everything Is Perfect

What is a healthy mindset?

A healthy mindset is being okay with trying, even if you aren’t the best. It is accepting that you don’t have to like everyone you meet and that they don’t have to take up any space in your mind or life if you don’t want them to. It means honoring when you aren’t feeling productive, and giving yourself the rest you need. It means pushing yourself when you know that you can stand to go a little farther. It means getting very good at discerning the difference.

The mistake most people are aiming for isn’t a healthy mindset, it’s the kind of perfectionistic nonsense that’s breaking them in the first place.

It does not mean that you do everything correctly on the first try. It does not mean you are able to intuit exactly what’s “right” for you without trying and failing sometimes. It does not mean that you will be seamlessly, unendingly productive, or that you’ll immediately like everyone you meet, and never have an ounce of self-doubt again.

A healthy mindset is not believing that everything is perfect, it is knowing that you will be okay even if it isn’t.

Most people live their lives thinking that just because they aren’t doing everything perfectly, that there’s something wrong with them. That they just need to be unblocked, healed, purged and awakened into some greater understanding that will make them the super beings they think they want to be.

That is not what healing is. That is not what awakening is.

Developing a healthy mindset is no longer avoiding, denying or rejecting discomfort, and it is knowing when discomfort is worth it. It is understanding that life is not perfect and never will be, and it is the willingness to live anyway. It is the knowledge that people are not always trustworthy, and it is the willingness to try anyway. It is realizing that you might not always get things right the first time, and it is the willingness to do them anyway. It is the acceptance that you are not a perfect being, and it is the recognition that you never needed to be anyway.

A healthy mindset means knowing that you have the power to build the life you want, and it is the wisdom to know when you’re wasting that energy on the things you don’t. It is not believing you are the best person in the room, it is being okay even though you aren’t. It is not competing with people until you arise victoriously and on top, it is remembering that everyone has their own path, and you cannot beat someone on their journey of self-development.

Be active. At the same time, focus on yourself.

How It Started With Colonel Sanders And Birth Of Kentucky Fried Chicken

Hey guys!

Let’s go back in history to proof a point that rejection is actually the gateway to success.

Once, there was an elderly man, who was broke, living in a tiny house and owned a beat up car. He was living off $99 social security checks. At 65 years of age, he decided things had to change. So he thought about what he had to offer.

His friends raved about his chicken recipe. He decided that this was his best shot at making a change.

He left the state of Kentucky in America and travelled to different states to try to sell his recipe. He told restaurant owners that he had a mouthwatering chicken recipe.

He offered the recipe to them for free, just asking for a small percentage on the items sold. Sounds like a good deal, right?



Unfortunately, not to most of the restaurants. He heard NO over 1000 times. Even after all of those rejections, he didn’t give up. He believed his chicken recipe was something special. He got rejected 1009 times before he heard his first YES.

With that one success Colonel Hartland Sanders changed the way Americans eat chicken. Kentucky Fried Chicken, popularly known as KFC, was born.

At the moment, KFC is a worldwide franchise filling people’s belly with good food to snack around.

NB: Remember, never give up and always believe in yourself in spite of rejection.

Today’s Nugget: Learn To Accept The Imperfect

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Needing everything to be perfect in order to make you happy is a quick route to being unhappy most of the time. If you are only ever happy with perfection, then you will severely limit your chances of being happy since perfection, in anything, is difficult to achieve; expecting everything in your life to be perfect, is near impossible. So does this mean that you will have to lower your standards in order to be happy? Happily, it doesn’t. Your standards can be set as high as you wish, but what you will need to learn to adjust is where you set your sights. Having high standards is all well and good, but needing everything to be 100 percent correct can quickly provide a tangible barrier to happiness. Accepting that very little is, in fact, perfect, and setting your sights just a little lower, means that you will achieve your aims much more of the time.

Now Is The Time For You To Help Each Other From Different Parts Of The World.

Hi guys!

I will keep it simple.

How can we assist each other in anyway? Yes not everything as to be financially inclined but it seems is the most challenging issue everyone is facing right now.

What about helping in services and profession. You can help someone in getting a job or linking one to provide a service. Don’t get me wrong, it is not easy but we can try.

I have a lot of financial issues on ground. Rent to pay, debts on ground, even my car am using for bolt to put food on the table and also pay some bills is in a serious mess. All I know is just a phase and things will surely work out.

I am opened to render my services in Advertising, SEO, or farming. Please contact me. If you also want to assist in anyway or led by the Holy Spirit I don’t mind at all. 😁😁😁🙏🙏🙏 God bless you!

I believe we will overcome every circumstances and storm by the grace of God. He will give us the strength and ways to make things change for our good.

Have a wonderful week!

Learn To Sit Back And Observe

Hey guys!

This topic is not new to most of you but dropping this year as a reminder.

In life, we need to learn to sit back and observe things. Not everything needs a reaction all the time.
You will meet someone tomorrow who has better intentions for you than someone you’ve known forever. Time means nothing, character does.

Character is everything in life. A bad character is like a foul smell that leaves a stench everywhere you go and you can’t go far with it. Practice being yourself and you will realize how beautiful you are. Trying to be someone else will only make you ugly.
Getting no message is also a message.

Trust in the Lord and His word. He cannot disappoint you. It’s not in His nature.

Walk with God and you’ll never be alone.

Peace and Love 🙏❤️😇