At The End Of The Day, God Will Always Be The Sour

At the end of the day, God will always be the source of my strength. He’ll always be the source of hope that gets me through the toughest times. He’ll always be the source of courage that makes me want to get up in the morning and try again or try harder. He’ll always be the source of light when the road is dark and unclear.

At the end of the day, God will always be the source of my optimism because I have faith in him. I have faith in his plans and his justice. I have faith in his lessons and his timing. I have faith in his losses and his blessings. I have faith in his guidance and in the path he chose for me. I have faith in his mercy and in his miracles. I have faith in him because every time I lost hope, he blessed me with something to be grateful for and every time I thought he was punishing me, he was actually releasing me from a poisonous cycle. And every time I felt dead inside, he brought me back to life.

At the end of the day, God will always be the source of my comfort. I find comfort in my work and with the people I love but I know that everything can change in the blink of an eye. I know that no matter how solid everything seems, it can easily dissolve except for him. He’s the only constant in my life. He’s the only one I can lean on without the fear that he’d change or let me down. At the end of the day, God will always be the reason behind every success and every achievement and every obstacle I overcome.

At the end of the day, God will always be the source of my happiness. When he listens to my prayers and answers them. When he redirects me to an even better destination than the one I had in mind. When he pushes me to bring out my talent or my strength or my resilience every time I’m close to giving up. When he nudges me to wake up and walk away from toxic people. When he helps me detach from the things that are not meant for me.

At the end of the day, God will always be the source of my strength because he’s the only one who hears my most terrifying thoughts and calms me down and he’s the only one who reads my mind and knows what’s in my heart and somehow eases them.

At the end of the day, God is always with me through the darkest and most painful times, I know he won’t abandon me and that gives me all the strength I need to power through and it makes me unafraid of falling down because he will always be right there to pick me up.

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There’s Beauty In Your Scars And Stories

Every scar tells a story. Every scar changes you. Every scar makes you even more beautiful.

The scars in your heart tell a story of bravery and vulnerability. They remind you of all the times you fell in love and the times your heart was fluttering with happiness. The times you put someone else’s happiness above your own and the times you believed against all odds. They remind you of the times you truly loved even though you swore you would never fall for anyone again. They remind you that even when your heart breaks, it still believes, it still hopes, it still finds the courage to try again even if it means adding one more scar.

The scars in your head take you back to all the battles you had to fight with yourself, how you learned to silence the toxic thoughts, how you managed to stop fear or self-doubt from getting to you when you wanted something that you didn’t know you could get. They take you back to all the times people let you down or told you false stories about who you are. They take you back to all the childhood messages you had to erase so you can start over, so you can begin again, so you can heal.

The scars on your body also tell a beautiful story of how you overcame pain or the bruises that came with crazy adventures and bold attempts. They remind you of your reckless days and your sleepless nights. They remind you that eventually the wounds heal and the pain slowly fades away. They remind you that things have a way of coming back together even if they’re sealed a little differently. They remind you that you can survive and that you’re a fighter. They remind you of all the times you got back up after life knocked you down and they remind you that life is full of bumps and bruises but it’s still worth living. It’s still beautiful and it’s worth fighting for.

There’s beauty in your scars and the stories they tell because they remind you of your strength and your healing. They remind you that at one point you showed up and you weren’t scared and instead of being ashamed of your scars, you wore them with pride. And for that, I’m proud of you. I’m proud of the way you wear your scars because they are deep and powerful and they hold a thousand beautiful untold stories.

Make Lemonade

Hey guys!

Most of us are familiar with this quote: If life hands you a lemon – make lemonade.

It is inevitable that not everything you do, all the time, will go according to plan or make you happy. In other words, try to turn your setbacks into a positive, and never simply accept that something g went wrong making you uncomfortable/unhappy, and that there is nothing that can be done about it.

Take for instance, you try starting your car but it didn’t respond. Everyone knows how frustrating that is, especially when you have an important meeting or engagement. Well the fact is that you have to accept the frustration, but at the same time recognize that you have been presented with some unexpected opportunities to make yourself happier. You can now take a walk and enjoy the fresh air and use that as an exercise, instead of sitting in traffic, or been stopped by VIO or road safety in the case of my country Nigeria.

Setbacks can free you to do something you will enjoy. Never allow setbacks to push you back always, find a way to turn it to your advantage.

How do you react in times of setbacks, troubles, or challenges?

Be Grateful For Setbacks

Setbacks, while never enjoyable experiences in their own right, can nevertheless offer some important opportunities, and if appropriately managed can lead to improved happiness. They can, for instance, provide opportunities to revise your plans for happiness and fulfillment in your life, to take stock and to see if you are heading in the right direction, or whether things need to change; and if they do, a setback might provide the impetus to making things happen.

At the very least, a setback should create a hiatus sufficient to get things underway. If you’re having problems in any area of your life, a setback can be seen as an opportunity to take a new and inspiring approach to finding a solution and, used correctly, it can create new routes to happiness. Setbavks can also offer new ways to grow, providing the opportunity to try new things, creating the space for new exploration and discovery, as well as building character. It is also in such times that you will find out who your real friends are. This can be harsh to discover, but it does atleast give you the opportunity to rid yourself of anyone who is not a positive influence in your life, and to create new relationships and friends with people who are. Whatever the setback, a positive attitude and a robust response will give you an opportunity to come back even stronger than before, and to prove to yourself that you can do so.

NB: Nobody prays for a setback in life, life just take its course.

Inspired by Matt Avery.

How To Stay Positive While Job Hunting

This is a Guest post.

You’ve just been rejected from a promising job prospect. Now, what?

If you go online and google: “How to handle job hunts,” you’ll be bombarded with messages on how to stay positive. But in that moment of rejection, positivity is the last thing you’ll be feeling, let alone be trying to achieve.

You feel frustrated, and not good enough. For a moment, you take the rejection personally. How can you not? Someone telling you that you’re not cut out for the position puts a dent in your self-esteem. So upon reading these articles on how to stay positive, you become bitter, resentful, or worse, you pretend everything is okay, and you repress those emotions of disappointment by holding them inside.

The issue with these job hunt articles is that they create an emotional dissonance because you’re feeling really bad, but they’re telling you to grin and bear it. These articles tell you to be resilient, but you don’t feel resilient in that moment; you may even feel vulnerable.

But that’s okay. Resilience is about recognizing your vulnerabilities and working through them. Don’t let an article tell you how you’re supposed to handle rejection. Handle the hurt the way you need to: vent, cry, get angry and let yourself feel. To paraphrase Morrie in the book, Tuesdays with Morrie:

“Wear your emotions like a jacket for a while; see how it feels. But when you are done, take it off.”

Staying positive is not about denying the frustration but rather acknowledging the hurt and moving on. It’s important not to let the bitter set in. Facing rejection even for the hundredth time does not make you numb to emotion; it’s normal to still feel upset.

The job hunt can get pretty frustrating. So, it’s healthy to let yourself mourn, and feel bad about not getting the position. Remember it’s not personal, it’s strictly business. But you can feel sad, and you can feel resentful. As long as you recognize that emotions can pass. Once you get past rejection, you move on and remain hopeful that the next one will be the right one.

So, what steps can you take to feel better while you’re out there job hunting?

1. Calm down for a second.

Tell the hiring manager, “Thank you for your time,” but here’s another thing I also like to ask recruiters, “Please keep me in mind for other roles should something else arise.” Remember, stay connected if you can.

2. Be angry, be annoyed, cry, be whatever you need to be for the moment.

Take your mourning period. To reach a good place, you need to get the frustrations out of your system. Complain about it to friends, treat it like you would a “date-gone-wrong.” Use that frustration for productive means. Apply to more jobs and continue to network! Whenever I get rejected from a role, I like to distract myself by applying to more openings. Ironically, it makes me hopeful again.

3. Think about it this way: if the door doesn’t open, it’s not your door.

The right role will come your way. If a hiring manager didn’t find that you were an exact fit, perhaps not getting the job is a blessing in disguise. There are two aspects to getting the job: Being the right fit for the role and the right fit for the company culture.

If they told you that you are not the right fit for the role, it just means that the hiring manager saw that your interests would not be fulfilled by this role. You try for a sales position, but they see managerial qualities in you. They know that you won’t be happy with the role, so don’t feel like you’re not good enough.

The same goes for culture fit. If the company culture does not align with yours, you wouldn’t be happy working there. For example, a company with a competitive culture saw that you were not competitive by nature. Had you gotten the role, you would have been stressed and dissatisfied. You’d be a better fit for an altruistic culture.

4. Accept that there was nothing you could have done differently.

Don’t beat yourself up if you felt that you somehow made a mistake, or said the wrong things during an interview. What’s done is done, learn from the experience, and keep it in mind for future interviews. Like I said earlier, it may feel personal, but it is just business. Don’t see this rejection as a fault in you.

5. Forgive yourself.

You did nothing wrong. Look at those interviews as good practice. You tried your best, and you’re all the better for it!

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Master The Art Of You’re Allowed To Admit You’re Not Okay

You’re not okay if you’re spending every single day in bed, barely moving from your room, rarely answering texts or engaging in any type of human interaction.

You’re not okay if you’re crying your eyes out every single night before you go to sleep, if you’re skipping showers almost every single morning, if you’re losing energy early in the afternoon when you’ve hardly even started your day yet.

You’re not okay if you’re always telling lies about why you’ve been acting so distant from your friends, why you’ve been locked inside your house lately, why you haven’t been in the mood to go out, why your eyes are always so red and puffy.

You’re not okay if you’ve lost interest in things you used to love, if you’ve lost energy, if you’ve lost passion, if you’ve lost the desire to roll out of bed when your alarm rings.

You’re not okay if you’ve been feeling off, like you’re not exactly yourself, like something needs to change. You’re not okay if you’re worried you’re going to feel this way forever. You’re not okay if you’re hoping thing are going to change soon.

You need to understand that not okay doesn’t mean not normal. There are so many people in this world feeling similar to how you’re feeling. You’re not alone. You’re not weird. You’re not crazy. You’re just a human going through a hard time right now.

If you’re not okay, you shouldn’t be embarrassed about it, but you should do something about it. You should reach out to get the help you deserve. You should make the choice to make a lifestyle change. You should see if you can find a therapist to talk to about your situation. You should pour your energy into finding a way to cultivate happiness moving forward.

You don’t want your life to be about existing until the next day, the next hour, the next minute. You want it to be about looking forward to the next day, the next hour, the next minute. In order for that to happen, you need to find things you enjoy. You need to get excited about waking up in the morning again. You need to ask yourself what you want and how you’re going to get it.

The time to play pretend is over. It’s time to start taking care of yourself. It’s time to decide you deserve happiness. You deserve to feel proud of yourself. You deserve to wake up in the morning with energy.

When you pretend you’re okay, you’re pretending you don’t need to fix your situation. You’re pretending your mental health isn’t a priority. You’re pretending talking to someone isn’t going to help. You’re pretending you’re perfectly fine living like this day after day after day.

But you’re not okay — and it’s okay to admit that. It’s okay to ask for help. It’s okay to start taking better care of yourself. It’s okay to decide you matter. Your happiness matters. Your well-being matters. Your life matters.

Guest post by Holly Riordan.

9 Common Stereotypes When It Comes To Your Lazy, Unproductive Days

This is a guest post.

1. You’re allowed to relax. You don’t want to make a habit out of slacking — but you don’t want to turn into a massive workaholic either. You’re allowed to relax every once in a while. You’re allowed to enjoy yourself. You’re allowed to have a life outside of your career.

2. Stress is dangerous. You don’t want to push yourself to the brink of exhaustion. You don’t want to pile on responsibilities until you’re crushed by your own stress. You have to take care of yourself. You can’t keep pushing your mental health aside in order to focus on your workload. Your mind matters. If you push yourself too far, you won’t get anything done.

3. Productivity doesn’t always mean what you think it means. You might think you’re being unproductive on weekends when you don’t leave the house, but that might not be entirely true. Texting your friends to check in on them is productive. Catching up on reading is productive. Giving yourself a break from your stress, so you don’t end up having a complete meltdown, is productive.

4. You’re not worthless for lounging around all day. How much you accomplish each day doesn’t correlate to your value. It doesn’t make you a better or worse person. You have to stop placing so much emphasis on success. Happiness matters more.

5. It’s okay to say no. You can’t please everyone. You can’t put a million different things on your plate at once. If you aren’t able to help someone with a favor or work extra hours to impress your boss, that’s okay. You’re allowed to say no.

6. You still have plenty of time to reach your goals. You might feel like you’re getting old, like time is running out, like you should have reached your goals by now. But you can’t rush success. You can’t let yourself become too impatient. You still have plenty of time to reach all your goals, plenty of time to make yourself proud.

7. You deserve a reward. Maybe today is going to be a lazy day — but you deserve a lazy day. Think about how hectic yesterday was. Think about how much work you got done last week. Think of how much you’ve accomplished over the course of this year. Don’t you deserve a day off? You’ve done more than you give yourself credit for, more than enough to earn a little me time.

8. You are meant to do more than work, eat, and sleep. You’re meant to have fun. You’re meant to travel, to make friends, to pick up new hobbies, to watch new movies, to explore this universe. Work isn’t supposed to be your entire life. It’s only supposed to be a part of your life.

9. You’re not a machine. You’re human. Not every single day is going to be a productive day. There are times when you’re going to have to let yourself relax and recharge. Otherwise, you’re going to self-destruct. So do yourself a favor and stop blaming yourself for being lazy. Let yourself enjoy it. At least for a little while.

Special thanks to Holly Riordan.

Why Is Everyone Talking About Success Will Come Slowly?

Why because?

Sometimes, you won’t get the credit you feel like you deserve. Sometimes, you’re going to feel like all the hard work you’ve been putting into a project has been a waste because nobody has been around to pat you on the back or remind you what a good job you’ve been doing.

But you don’t need validation from anyone else in order to feel proud of yourself. Stop waiting around for other people to realize your value and start rewarding yourself. When you accomplish one of your goals, reward yourself with a bottle of wine or freshly baked cookies or your favorite latte from Starbucks. Make sure that, even if the rest of the world can’t see what a good job you’ve been doing, you recognize it yourself.

Sometimes, you’re not going to get the reaction you were hoping for from your friends, family, coworkers, and kids you used to know in high school. Sometimes, you’re not going to impress the people you’ve been hoping to impress. Sometimes, you’re going to live through your successes quietly. That’s why you shouldn’t do anything for the sake of fitting in or looking cool. You should be doing things because they’re what you want to do, because they make you happy, because you can’t imagine having more fun doing anything else.

Sometimes, you’re not going to see all of your hard work pay off in a short amount of time. Sometimes, you’re going to have to wait. Sometimes, you’re going to have to stay patient. Some successes take longer than others. You’re not always going to see results overnight. Sometimes, you’re going to have to wait years for your effort to pay off — and that whole time, you’re going to have to keep faith in yourself. You’re going to have to hold onto the hope that you can do this, that you’re going to reach your destination eventually.

Sometimes, you’re to experience jealousy. You’re going to wonder why your friends are so much further ahead in their careers and relationships than you. You’re going to wonder why your bosses give more credit to other workers than you. You’re going to wonder why you haven’t reached your goals yet when other people who have been trying for shorter lengths of time are already ahead of you.

But you can never allow your jealousy to turn into mean-spiritedness. You have to stop thinking of others as your competitors and start thinking of them as your inspirations. You have to be happy for them. You have to remember that their successes are not your failures. Your journey has nothing to do with their journey.

Sometimes, your confidence is going to crash. Sometimes, you’re going to doubt your own abilities. Sometimes, you’re going to flirt with the idea of giving up. But you can never allow yourself to quit on the things that mean the most to you. You have to stay passionate, stay motivated, stay inspired, stay strong. You have to remind yourself you can do this.

Calm Down, You’re Not Falling Behind

Calm down because you’re not falling behind. There’s not some sort of timeline that you’re supposed to be keeping up with as the years pass. There isn’t a place you should be right now.

Maybe your friends have already reached certain career and relationship milestones — but it doesn’t mean you’re behind because you’re still working on those things. Life isn’t a race. You’re not supposed to rush to be the first person to the finish line. Your journey is entirely your own. You shouldn’t be comparing yourself to your old classmates or cousins. You should be focused on yourself because their wins aren’t your losses.

Calm down because you haven’t done anything wrong. Maybe you’ve spent years chasing after the wrong person. Or maybe you’ve spent years majoring in something you’re not interested in pursuing anymore. There’s nothing wrong with that. It doesn’t mean you screwed up. It means you’ve learned more about yourself during these last few years. It means you’re growing into the person you’re meant to be. That’s a good thing.

Calm down because you’re not too old to make a change. As scary as it is to switch career paths or end a long-term relationship, it’s something that happens every single day. You’re allowed to change your mind at any time. You shouldn’t feel guilty about it. You shouldn’t feel like all the years leading up to today were wasted. They brought you to where you are right now.

Calm down because you still have plenty of time to make a name for yourself. You don’t have to reach success in your twenties. Most people are still figuring themselves out at this age. Most people don’t have it all together — even if it looks like they do. Remember, social media can be deceiving. You don’t know the behind the scenes stories. You can’t compare when you don’t know the details — and even if you do know the details, there’s no sense in turning your happiness into a competition.

Calm down because no one is judging you as hard as you’ve been judging yourself. You’re your own worst enemy. Despite what your overthinking is telling you, no one is ashamed of you. No one is disappointed in you. And if they are, that’s too bad. You’ve been trying your best and that’s all you can ever do.

Calm down because dwelling over every little mistake you’ve made in the past isn’t going to help you. You shouldn’t berate yourself over how you should have done better or worked harder or put in more effort. You shouldn’t get too upset over the what-ifs because they’re no longer a possibility. You can’t change what happened yesterday, but you’re in total control of how you act tomorrow, so make sure you push yourself forward instead of dragging yourself backward.

Calm down because you’re doing so much better than you think. You need to give yourself more credit. You need to take a second to look back on where you were years ago and realize how much you’ve evolved. You might not have reached certain milestones yet — but that just means you have something to look forward to in the future!

True Motivational Story: Emilia Clarke – 3 Surgeries, The Pain And Shooting Game of Thrones

Emilia Clarke has such a truly motivational story. Emilia Clarke Recovery Story. It was a real pain but now it a motivation for many. She couldn’t remember her own name.

Emilia Clarke | A recovery story

Emilia Clarke had to film the second season of Game of Thrones. Brain surgery was not part of the plan. She was at the gym when she felt like an elastic band was squeezing her brain. She crawled to the bathroom and sank to her knees in front of the toilet.

She was trying to recall her lines form Game of Thrones when a woman found her lying on the floor.

Emilia Clarke had suffered a life-threatening brain aneurysm. The process was a real pain and the recovery was worse. After three-hour brain surgery, doctors told her she might not make it through the two weeks. A nurse asked her for her name. She wasn’t able to answer.

I wanted to pull the plug. I asked the medical staff to let me die. My job-my entire dream of what my life would be centered on language, on communication without that, I was lost.

The memory loss was temporary. But her recovery was slow and the fear only amplified.

A month later, she was back on set powering through scenes.

I told my bosses at “thrones about my condition, but I didn’t want it to be a subject of public discussion and direction. The show must go on!

She sipped on morphine between press interviews and hid her fatigue behind makeup.

She sipped on morphine between press interviews and hid her fatigue behind makeup.

On set, I didn’t miss a beat, but I struggled. Season 2 would be my worst. I didn’t know what Daenerys was doing. If I am truly being honest, every minute of every day I thought I was going to die.

Emilia Clarke didn’t complain, even when the pain was so strong she couldn’t drown it with drugs.

I was raised never to say, “It’s not fair”; I was taught to remember that there is always someone who is worse off than you.

In 2013, a routine brain scan showed Emilia needed a second surgery. She needed to undergo one more surgery to fully recover from the pain. She was promised a simple procedure. She woke up screaming in pain. The surgery had failed, and she had massive internal bleeding. She needed a third operation immediately.

Doctors drilled through her skull to save her life. A few weeks later, hiding scars with her hair, Emilia Clarke faced thousand of enthusiastic fans at Comic-Con.

She was hit by an excruciating headache.

Back came that sickeningly familiar sense of fear. I thought this is it. My time is up; I’ve cheated death twice and now he’s coming to claim me.

As she stepped off stage, an MTV reporter was waiting for her.

I figured if I’m going to go, it might as well be on live television.

But she didn’t go. She played Khaleesi for the third season, and the fourth, and the fifth…

As her character grew stronger and fiercer, Emilia Clarke learned to surrender to the unknown. She faced her fear head on instead of avoiding it.

And when the eighth and final season came around, she was still alive.

But there was one last thing Emilia Clarke needed to do to truly heal. After keeping quiet for nearly a decade, she opened up about her experience for the first time.

Emilia Clarke after her recovery now throws herself into charity work with the same dedication that turned her into a fan-favorite.

She wants to give others the chance to afford the treatments she was lucky to receive.

There is something gratifying, and beyond lucky, about coming to the end of ‘Thrones’, I’m so happy to be here to see the end of this story and beginning of whatever comes next

It is not easy to fight your way through life. Who will ever imagine she went through all this pains during the shoot of Game of Thrones. Her character in the series never for once showed any sign of illness as she toughened herself through the storm to get things done. If she didn’t believe in herself and others rooting for her through inspiration, it would be another story now. But in all she fought, shw conquered.

What is your story?

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83 Ways to Become a Better Person (Final List)

Hey guys!!!

This is the last list from my series on how to be a better person. Hope you have learnt one or two things from this short series. Well I have and can’t wait to share the rest.

61. Remind yourself that pain is temporary. Repeat the mantra when you are doing #60.
62. Learn how to greet someone in Japanese, in manner and in language.
63. Go out of your way for your customers and your clients . Do it because you care not because they pay you.
64. Create your own product. It can be anything but create something that is your very own and then sell it.
65. Learn how to sell. And sell only what you would buy yourself.
66. Write everyday . It’s the essence of all wealth, the necessity of all success, and it will make you happy and rich.
67. Think about what you eat and choose with intention and with smarts.
68. Travel to a far, exotic, foreign country at least once.
69. Stop using your kids or your marriage or life’s problems as an excuse that “keeps you from being happy” . That’s garbage.
You are the only person that decides your happiness. As Tolstoy said so brilliantly, “If you want be happy, then be.”
70. Associate with people that are smarter, more successful, happier and kind enough to let you in their circle.
71. Get out of the naysayer, negative, jaded social circles first. It’s time to let go!
72. Visit the Pacific ocean. I don’t know how it does it but it makes you a better person.
73. If you don’t mean something, don’t say it. If you can’t help it, then don’t put yourself in situations that make you say it.
74. Stop lying to yourself. You know deep down when you do it. You can fool anyone but yourself. Choose honesty.
75. Believe in someone who doesn’t have
confidence in herself or himself. Sometimes, it changes their life to have someone believe in them.
76. Listen to uplifting, positive information that pushes you to take action with your life. Podcasts abound. Turn off the news.
77. Sell your TV or trade it in for books.
78. Spend a few minutes studying gorillas. They are so like us, it’s like looking into a mirror and seeing a reflection of yourself. Learn from gorillas.
79. Go whale watching and get lost in the world of these gentle giants.
80. Climb one mountain, even if you are not fit and it’s not “your thing”. Something about climbing and looking down at how far you have come. Seriously.
81. Help someone who is in trouble. Just genuinely help.
82. Start a blog but only write about stuff you care about. Only!
83. Believe that there is enough – way more than enough – success to go around for all of us. This of course does not apply if you are in the corporate world. It’s quite limited. Only a few succeed.

There you have it. 83 ways to become a better person but there are more ways. What would you say is the 84th and beyond? Tell me in the comments!

The more credit goes to P. Life..

18 Ways To Learn How To Stop Procrastinating Now (Part 4)

Hey guys!

Today I will be sharing the last part of my series on procrastination.

1. Determine if it’s worth doing.
You might just be procrastinating because you don’t want to do something for a good reason. It may be a job you hate, a procedure you can’t stand, a part of your life that you simply want to escape. That is different from procrastinating on your dreams and real goals.

To this, I would say examine the task at hand before doing it because why do something you hate with so many opportunities to do what we love?

2. Tiptoe in to see what happens.
Pick the thing you are procrastinating right now and just tiptoe in to see what happens. Do a fraction of it. Then decide how you feel about the advice.

Often you overwhelm yourself with the idea of doing it all and then you sit on it because it’s too much. What if you just did 15 minutes or half an hour? What if you got on board for just a wee bit to get a taste and break the waiting cycle?

3. Don’t listen to your moods. They lie.
The strongest reason we procrastinate is because we just “don’t feel like doing it!” You know what happens if you listen to that lousy mood? Nothing happens!

So before you do whatever you need to do, change your mood with a meditation track or check out my popular 10 Minute Invigorator Program that is guaranteed to switch up your mood in 10 minutes or less.

4. Clean up the environment.
The environment you surround yourself with can either perpetuate your procrastination or nip it in the bud. Take a look at your desk, your house, your space where you need to do this work. Is it clean or cluttered ?
Have courage and clean up the mess, throw away the rubbish you don’t need, and create a peaceful and productive space that is inducive to creativity and positivity.

5. Commit to it loud and clear.
In the first 20 minutes of my 6am Ashtanga yoga practice, a voice inside me is complaining and fussing “This is way too hard at this crazy hour. Let me go back to bed. Stop! I don’t feel like it!” And I know right then that if I give power to that mental shift, if I don’t commit loudly to the breath and the practice, if I stare at the clock, then I might as well go home.
Commit already. Commit loud. Commit and mean it. Commit to yourself.

6. Share your commitment with one person.
Choose one person, a partner, a spouse, a role model, a good friend, and tell them you committed to something specific, with dates and times. Ask if they please hold you accountable in a friendly but firm way?

The best partner is someone who may need the encouragement too. What is it that they are procrastinating on? Can you keep one another honest? Of course you can! Together, you are twice as strong!

7. Stop playing the victim card.
Why do we glorify being a victim of circumstance? Why do complainers get so many listening ears? There is nothing sexy or healthy about playing the victim, trust me.

Be your own hero instead. Be a warrior of peace. Be strong and tall and grateful for life. Stop the victim mindset and when it creeps in, just change it by telling yourself that you are in charge.

8. Kill the excuses. Abolish the distractions.
In order to do this, you must first know the definition of an excuse and a distraction. The dictionary definition says an excuse is “ a reason put forward to conceal the real reason for an action.”

Excuses and distractions build the walls of resistance, but only if you give them focus and attention. Put your focus and attention where it belongs: on the task at hand.

9. Maximize the small chunks of time.
You have got to manage your time well if you want to be a success. One good news is that you don’t need large chunks of time to get things done.
If you can’t dedicate an hour or two a day to something that matters to you, you can start with 15 minutes or 30 minutes a day, but for the long term, think about a fundamental shift in your lifestyle design. For now, use the 10-minute chunks everywhere you can find them.

10. Let the power of mantra guide you.
Mantras are positive affirmations you repeat to yourself over and over. This can help you achieve this. You can even synchronize your breathing. In-breath will do the first half of the mantra and out breath the second half.

Some of my favorites are “If they can, so can I” and “ I’ll do it now so I can reap the reward later.” Choose your own mantra and repeat it.

11. Turn a deaf ear to your lizard brain.
The inner voice is negative, it is your lizard brain , as Seth would tell us, and if you let it loose, it will destroy your mind with negativity. Stop listening to it by not focusing on it.
Recognize when you may be entering your lizard brain, it’s usually when you doubt your ability to get something done. Even if you don’t believe in yourself at first, keep repeating your positive mantra to quiet the negativity.

12. Visualize the end goal. See it in your mind’s eye.
Visualization is a powerful exercise that helps you focus on the end goal. It is a proven technique that kills procrastination and motivates you to high levels of success.

It takes a lot of focus and attention to seeing the end goal and how it can manifest itself in your life. Start with creating a vision board if you want to give this a full try.

13. Create enough pain to move you to action.
Pain moves you to action. It was pain that led me out of my corporate life and into running my own businesses.

If you have enough pain, you will start doing. And if you told me that you wanted out of the corporate world but you are sitting around not taking any action, it’s because you are not in enough pain to take action.

So are you in pain from not doing what needs to be done? Let’s take weight loss. Are you in enough anguish from your weight and health problems to take action yet? If not, then can you creatively create more pain (yes I am asking you to create more pain in your comfortable state)?

14. Harness the fear and win.
Say no to fear. Fear is procrastination’s best ally so it’s bound to show up. Just don’t accept it. Don’t invite it in. Engage it in conversation to calm your nerves, to be in charge, to have control. If you can do this once, you can do it again and soon it becomes a habit.

Who hasn’t had a conversation with oneself? Why not make it a good one? In the privacy of your thoughts, ask yourself why you are procrastinating, what it is, is it fear, is it laziness, is it lack of knowledge? What is at your soft core? Listen to the whispers coming back. Then let your own inner guide help you push past the fear.

15. Cultivate self-discipline.
It’s either the pain of getting self-disciplined now or tasting the bitter pill of regret later. When put in that perspective, it is a quick decision. To translate it to action, create your own small habits that will build up your productivity.

Everyone is different. Cultivate at the pace what works for you, maybe an hour early in the morning, maybe a Sunday night ritual, maybe timing yourself, maybe working in complete isolation. Find that magic habit that works for you. That’s your self-discipline.

16. Make that deadline count.
Setting deadlines is easy to do and hard to keep. Nothing could be easier than putting a date on the calendar so how do you make it count if you hate deadlines? Put some repercussions in place.

Tell yourself that if you are not done by this date, you have to give up on something you really like. For me, the ultimate punishment would be my daily good tea . What do you want to give up if you don’t meet that deadline?

17. Drop the perfectionism.
Perfectionism is not something to be proud of. It is a habit that holds you back from delivery results. Don’t mistake it with high quality. Of course you must delivery your highest work at the best quality, but perfection? Do you think that it even exists?

Have you ever achieved the state of perfectionism and been rewarded to the point that you now hold yourself to it every time? Learn to cure your perfectionism and move yourself to a steady state of taking action.

18. Reward yourself big every time.
We do not reward ourselves nearly enough. When you achieve a goal, any shape or size, especially one you have been procrastinating on for a long time, celebrate it! Buy yourself something wonderful. Give yourself a day off. Do something you rarely do for yourself. Look at your accomplishment with gratitude and joy.

It’s a big deal when you break through the barriers of procrastination. Congratulations are in order! How do you celebrate in style? I book a trip somewhere special and run off to practice more yoga.
We must all suffer one of two things: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret and disappointment. ~ Jim Rohn

What are you procrastinating on? Did you learn more about how to stop procrastinating by stopping here?

Podcast: Hope- The Natural Cure For Unhappiness

You can be happy because your hope and joy are based on God’s goodness in your life, not the world’s circumstances.

The moment you begin to live in hope, believing and trusting that God is going to do amazing things in your life. Joy comes rushing in.

To listen to this podcast, click on the link below…

Podcast- the natural cure for unhappiness

Ensured Success

Person on the mountain top

“Why am I not successful in what I am doing right now…”
“I’m giving this everything I’ve got but it’s not working…”
“I feel like I have been stuck here forever…”

If you are an individual that has been striving to live a successful life, then you have probably asked yourself similar questions to these along the way in your journey. This is a place that I have been familiar with in my life and it wasn’t until I started asking different questions that I began to receive answers. Once I realized that I was asking the wrong questions, I stopped and asked God what He thought of what I was doing to be successful…

“God, what is your success plan for my life?”

Have you ever stopped to think that what you are doing may not be what God has for you to do? Often we as believers forget that we are no longer our own. (1 Corinthians 6:19-20) We may have our own plan and some things that we want to do. However, no matter how good our intentions may be, we need to remember that if we want to be successful in what we do then it needs to be God’s plan for us, not our own. I am not saying that the direction that you are going in is wrong. It may just be that you are focused on your own success and personal gain instead of the bigger picture of the success that God has for you.

Years ago in my personal life, I had a goal to have a certain amount of money in my bank account before being out of my early twenties. I had purchased and paid off a nice sports car, and owned rental property before the age of 21; things were on track and going very well. However, the economy took a very negative turn and messed up my plans. I realize now how unhappy I was through that season of my life, even when things were good; what was keeping me going was my drive to achieve my goals.

Since this time, I have grown up a lot and now understand what it means to follow God’s success plan for my life. Today, I can say to some extent am successful, not because I have that certain amount of money in my bank account, but because I am following God’s plan for my life. The craziest part about this is that the plan isn’t much different than my plan that I had for myself, what changed the most is my motivation and my reasoning for success. Now both of these things are God-focused instead of Alex focused.

As you go through your day, think about the goals you have set for yourself, and then surrender them to God. Know that the success that He has planned for you is far greater than what you have for yourself. Always remember that God will ensure success in accordance with His plan; not our own. Success is obtained by trusting God’s plan and surrendering our own. Success is obtained by trusting God’s plan and surrendering our own.

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.
Proverbs 3:5-6

Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established.
Proverbs 16:3