The Tiny Little Secret That Gives You Permission To Enjoy Anything

Boy I love a cheesy title every once in a while. Like the one above. Yes, I know it’s cheesy, but you know what? I decided to like it. Even more, I decided to enjoy it.

And with that, the secret – because there is a secret, the title didn’t lie – is already suggested.

Ok, let’s not waste more time on this: the secret is decision. The conscious decision to enjoy stuff. Time spent enjoying is time well spent. You can’t be really miserable if you consciously enjoy something. So, if you really want to enjoy anything, all you have to do is to decide you’re gonna do that. That’s all. That’s the secret.

I’m not saying to be delusional, to fake enjoyment when you’re hurt. Hurt happens. And it’s real. Pain is real. I’m not saying to deny it. But try to enjoy the fact that you can still feel pain. The fact that you’re still alive. After a while the pain will go away. It’s bound to be like this, everything changes. The pain, the pleasure, the sadness, the joy, all of them are going to fade away. That’s our condition on this earth.

We can’t control that. We can’t stop time in its track. We can’t freeze this second and relive it again and again and again. Time will catch us from behind and crash us, moving forward.

The only thing we can control is how we react to this change. That’s the secret, the reaction, the conscious decision we take while witnessing the change. Circumstances are blending around us and sometimes they’re perceived as good, sometimes as bad. But beyond good and bad there’s this basic pleasure, this unexplainable feeling of fulfillment that you’re still here, in the stream, existing.