Typically, when you look for role models, you want someone who has your interests and came from the same background. Well, look how restricting that is. What people should do is take role models à la carte. If there’s someone whose character you appreciated, you respect that trait – Neil deGrasse Tyson
The inspiration provided by role models can be useful short cut to a quick fix of feeling good. But in order for this to work, you first need to know yourself. At first glance this may sound obvious – indeed, you might well assume that you already know yourself rather well! The truth, however is that usually we don’t know ourselves as well as we think we do. This can be for some reasons listed below.
- A lack of self awareness
- Not wanting to look at ourselves too closely, either consciously or subconsciously
- Assuming that we already know ourselves and therefore don’t need to look
- Not wanting to face weaknesses
It is only by knowing yourself on every level and in every way that you can fully benefit from the example set by role models.
Inspiring Role Models
Once you have identified your strengths and weaknesses, your character traits, how you think and how you behave, so on… you will have a good understanding of the gaps you need to be able to fill in order to make the best of every situation. You are now in the best position to choose a role model/models, by identifying people who are strong in the areas in which you are weak.
You need to select role models who will inspire you When faced with a difficult problem, by being able to think through what they might do, and how they might overcome the challenges with which you are faced.
Who Do You Want To Be?
Following your role models can be a fun way to share in their successes, but in order to enjoy such achievements yourself, you will need to decide not only what you want to do with your life, but who you want to be. Trying thinking of yourself as the blank canvas actors assume before creating a character. You could be anything, do anything and achieve anything you want to. So what is it that you really want to do? Who would you want to be this time next year, in five or ten years time? Think of your role models in terms of life and career, but more successful.
A persistent and lasting happiness is difficult to achieve if you are not happy with who you are, but by improving yourself a little everyday you will ensure that you move consistently closer to becoming a ‘you’ who you want to be, and to achieving the happiness you desire.