10 Quick Tips to Make Someone Happy Today

Since you get more joy out of giving joy to others, you should put a good deal of thought into the happiness that you are able to give.” #quote
Eleanor Roosevelt

One of the best ways to create a happier life for yourself is to make other people happier.

Why?

  • You see it. You’ll feel happier as someone’s face lights up with joy.
  • You did a good thing. You’ll feel happier because you feel you have done a good thing. And so your self-esteem shoots up too.
  • You get what you give. In the long run you tend to be treated by others as you treat them. Plus, the way you treat and think about others also tends to be the way you treat and think about yourself.

So how can you make someone happy today?

Here are 10 quite tips you can start doing today. Pick one and see how it can affect someone in your life.

1. Give a sincere compliment. Many positive things tend to go unsaid. So give someone a sincere compliment today. It can mean especially much if it’s for something that is close to the other person’s heart. Or something he or she has been putting in a good effort with like getting into better shape for the last few months.

2. Hold the door open for a few extra seconds. It doesn’t take much of an effort but it can put a smile on someone’s face.

3. Express your gratitude for what is too often taken for granted. We may sometimes take what others do a bit too much for granted. Like the food they cook, how they keep doing their job consistently each and every day or how to they are there to listen when we need it.

4. Encourage. The world can be a tough and discouraging place at times. So encourage someone who is in a negative situation at the moment. Add your own perhaps more grounded and optimistic perspective on the situation to lessen his or her worries and perhaps exaggerated fears.

5. Tell a good – or terrible – joke. Or a funny story about something that happened to you last week.

6. Share something funny you found online. Play one of your favorite clips from a stand-up show you love if you are out of jokes and good stories at the moment.

7. Share a Spotify-playlist with the most inspiring and uplifting songs you know. Send it to a friend that needs it right now. Or share it with family, friends or co-workers on social media.

8. Give a stranger a compliment. Few things can brighten a day like getting a kind and unexpected compliment from someone you pass by or you have just met. So take a few seconds and give that to someone you encounter today and tell her how nice her shoes, hat or hairstyle looks. Or ask him where he where he got that cool t-shirt or umbrella.

9. Help out practically with advice. If a friend needs some help then ask someone you know who has been in that situation for advice. Or do a bit of online research to find what he she might be looking for.

10. Give a hug. It unstresses and it can disrupt negative thoughts and change someone’s mood surprisingly quickly. Use when appropriate though.

11. Smile. Even if you’re only spending 30 seconds on talking to the cashier in the supermarket checkout line.

12. Just listen. It’s sometimes all that’s needed to help someone out of a negative headspace.

13. Bring the positivity. If you bring positivity and an open, happy and good energy into a conversation for example then that tends to spread and the two of you or more will have happier lunch break, evening down at the pub or coffee date in the crisp autumn sunshine.

14. Share some of your tasty homemade cookies. Or bread, ice cream or jerky.

15. Let someone into your lane while you’re driving. It can unstress his or her day quite a bit.

Share to someone who needs this..

Welcome To The Month Of Divine Favour And Breakthrough

A donkey was tied to a tree. A demon came and released him. The donkey entered the field of a farmer and began to eat everything. The farmer’s wife saw the donkey and, afraid that it would destroy the farm, took the rifle and killed him.The donkey’s owner saw the dead donkey, got angry, and also took his rifle and fired at the woman, killing her. When the farmer got home and saw that his wife was dead, he killed the donkey’s owner.The donkey owner’s sons seeing their dead father, burned the farmers field. The farmer in retaliation killed them.When they asked the demon what he had done, he said:- “I did nothing, I just released the donkey.”Do you get it? The devil doesn’t have power to do much, but one simple thing he does triggers the evil intents of men’s hearts to harm one another. So, let’s think before seeking revenge! Be careful with your heart, because many times, the only thing the devil does is “release the donkey”

Happy New Month and Do have a great week ahead.

Happy New Month Of November

May this new month bring fresh air to your soul
As you breathe in God’s life anew.

May a sunrise of sweet promises
Dawn across your mind with dreams that come true.


May the love of your heavenly Father
Blow like a breeze through your cares
And the winds of eternities calling
Lift you high to find vision again.

Amen🙏

How to be Full of Joy Even if You’re Suffering Right Now

We can be full of joy in the midst of our suffering if only we can see the flip side to it and not just the side that invokes pain. (It’s about perspective)- Sho

Suffering implies experiencing discomfort. No one likes discomfort. But, how you embrace it depends on your perspective. In this post, I’m going to explain how to be full of joy even if you’re suffering.

ou may view suffering as a consequence of actions that led you out of God’s protection or covering. Such a view perceives hardship as a sign that sin is lurking somewhere in your life. You may also view it as an attack from the enemy. In either case, you are naturally inclined to do whatever it takes for the pain to stop or difficulty to end. Could you, however, be missing God’s work in the midst of all this?

In Romans 5 NIV, as Paul makes a case for the basis of our salvation through faith in Christ, he throws in an interesting comment on suffering in verse 3 and 4

“… but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope …”

This is interesting because what we see here is that if we endure suffering, the end state is that it produces character and hope. And this is a reason to rejoice. We see a similar assertion in James 1: 2-4 NIV.

“Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.”

In essence, suffering, trials and hardship can be a tool in God’s hands to makes us more like Christ.

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God can use suffering, trials, and hardship as tools when we endure, rather than try to escape or avoid it. Just like the soreness and pain from working out, we can endure the discomfort because God is using it to make us more like Jesus, even if we may not completely get it at the moment.

When that crazy driver next to you is testing your patience on the road, or that rude co-worker or you experience a series of unfortunate events, think on these things. As crazy as it may sound or seem to those around you, you may just have a reason to rejoice. As you ask God for wisdom, ask for grace to endure. If you keep your eyes on the fact that once you have endured this specific challenge, you are one step closer to being like Him, you can find some joy in suffering.


Good To Be Back After a Long Break

Good day,

It is good to be back after 3 months of not posting as always. I was privileged to be the handler of one of the housemates in the just concluded Big Brother Naija 2019. This was a great experience for me to be able to learn more about Public relations, and also how to manage my temper and character towards people. In the space of 3 months, I lost my job, but never will i fret knowing God has opened a better door for me again.

Also, the Lord blessed my home with an handsome baby boy, who looks so much like his dad😁 Am delighted to share this with you fam, because I know your prayers will go a long way for me and my family.

Jesse Cardozo Johnson

Am happy to be back, to do what I do best by inspiring and motivating people around. I really miss you guys!

I hope have not gotten rusty though 😄😂

Have a wonderful, fulfilled day guys.

The Truth: Hurts But Heals

They exchanged the truth about God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator—who is forever praised. Amen” (Romans 1:25).

There is definitely some truth in the old saying, “The truth hurts.” We can all empathize with those moments when a truth becomes so obvious that it makes our stomach drop as if we were plummeting down a hill on a roller coaster. There are those moments when someone points out a character flaw that you were blind to, or those times when it becomes glaringly obvious that you made a mistake and you owe someone an apology. Personally, my least favorite “truth moments” are those times when I have been holding firmly to an argument only to realize that I was completely wrong.

Yes the truth hurts, but, more importantly, the truth heals. In all of the situations I just mentioned above, is the truth not the ideal answer? Even though it means that someone might be wrong or someone needs to apologize, isn’t it better than the alternative of living out the pain and destruction of a lie? I for one do not always react favorably when someone points out a truth in my life, but I always end up being grateful for it. The permanent pain of living a lie is far worse than the temporary pain of facing a truth. The truth heals, and pain almost always accompanies healing.

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My dad is one of the most loved and respected people I ever know, but he is not shy about pointing out the truth. I would often go to him for advice when I have a problem about life or understanding some events in the bible. Every time I speak to my dad I will be hoping he tells me how right I am even when am wrong. I have no recall one time where he did that. In fact, it will be the opposite. He will often provide no response to my attempts to vilify the other person, and he will spend most of his time trying to open my eyes to where I have been wrong.

I remember often getting frustrated with my dad during these conversations. On the outside, I would respectfully nod my head and try to listen. On the inside, I remember thinking, “How does she not see that I am right and the other party is wrong!?” I would often leave the house disappointed that I did not get what I wanted, but the truth of his words would always sink in eventually. Whether it was an hour or a week after I walked out the door, I would heed his words. I would go apologize to everyone i offended or whatever wronged i did, which often led to reconciliation and a greater peace in my life.

I would call my dad for an affirmation of MY TRUTH, not seeking out THE TRUTH. Luckily for me, my dad will be willing to risk a little pain and discomfort by telling me the truth, because he knows that the truth would heal me. It is so easy to take the same approach with God. We can read the bible and skip over the parts we don’t like, or go to church on Sundays and only receive the words from the preacher that we are comfortable with. We may not say it, but we think things like, “God’s favour and blessings sound great, but that whole thing about picking up my cross to follow Him sounds painful.” We can try to affirm OUR TRUTH rather than seeking out THE TRUTH, and the word says that “THE TRUTH shall set you free” (John 8:32).

Jesus is the way, THE TRUTH, and the life. Only He can convict us of our sin, while at the same time offering us love, forgiveness and grace to cover it. One encounter with Him can bring us to our knees in shame and also leave us completely full of joy. Jesus loved us too much not to convict us our sin, but He also loved us too much to let us suffer in our sin.  What truth are you exchanging for a lie, because the truth seems too painful to face? What is the Holy Spirit convicting you of that you’re pretending not to hear? Be courageous! Step into that truth, and let the healing take place!

Podcast: Hope- The Natural Cure For Unhappiness

You can be happy because your hope and joy are based on God’s goodness in your life, not the world’s circumstances.

The moment you begin to live in hope, believing and trusting that God is going to do amazing things in your life. Joy comes rushing in.

To listen to this podcast, click on the link below…

Podcast- the natural cure for unhappiness

Sometimes An Ending Can Be A Blessing In Disguise

Sometimes endings force you to find new beginnings. They force you to step up and fill that void but you end up finding a lot more about yourself. You end up finding something better for you. You end up wishing you had ended things a lot sooner or had the courage to walk away from the things and the people who no longer inspire you. Things that no longer move you.

We don’t need to mourn all endings. We don’t need to be sad just because we were taught that endings are bad. Some endings are happy or they lead to happier endings. Some endings may be hard to swallow at first but when you look past the pain, you see the wisdom and the lesson behind it, the opportunities that it brought you and the person it made you.

You find a lot more blessings in endings than you do in beginnings. Beginnings are exciting and sometimes you can overlook what you really want or how it could change your life because you’re in love with the thrill of it. You’re addicted to the idea that something new is happening in your life but the real blessings are in endings. When things end and you’re forced to look deeper into the whys and the hows. When things end and you’re confronted by a million questions that push you to find important answers.
Ironically, the hardest endings are always the ones that are best for us. The hardest endings always bring the biggest joys.

But the most beautiful part of endings is that they show you what’s meant to be yours and what’s not. It’s God’s way of taking care of you. It’s God’s way of moving you to a new direction. It’s God’s message to you and you can’t go wrong with that. His plan is better than yours.

So maybe the title is a little misleading, it’s not just ‘sometimes,’ it’s all the time. Endings are always a blessing in disguise.

Endings should be celebrated just like new beginnings. They hold so many opportunities. So much freedom. So much hope.

How To Be Generous Even If You’re Broke

Illustration of donation support iconsWhen you break generosity down to its raw form, it’s made up of two parties: one with surplus and the other with need. And the decision to be generous is a form of love.

In 2015, I decided I wouldn’t wait until I was “wealthy” to start giving. Generosity was a journey I desired to embark on now.

I believed generosity was less like an arrow and more like a boomerang. It always comes back to you.

But my giving at the time consisted of whatever I have in my pocket to give to the beggars around. Later I graduated to having a percentage of my per month income to give to the needy. Which was great! It was a solid starting point and it helped form the perspective on money that I needed at that time in my life.

But eventually, I began feeling small. Almost like my contribution wasn’t truly making a difference. At the time, my income wasn’t high and I just couldn’t afford to pay off debt, survive in Abuja, and give 5%-10% to a cause that I cared about.

But then I realized generosity is rarely about money.

It’s about time. It’s about friendship. It’s about opportunities, introductions, and bro-deals. And sure, it was about money too. So here’s what I did:

1. I Created a Time Account

Over the next few years, I created not only a giving account at my bank, but a time account on my computer. I decided I would donate 4 hours per month helping people do things like move their house, design a business card, or just give them a friendly introduction to an important contact.

2. I Paid For Dinner

This is my favorite way to give. For such a small cost it seems to create a huge sense of gratitude. It might be because the cost of dinner is a real necessity. We go into our meal believing we will be covering our portion of the tab and then, BAM! Someone picks up the check… and a rush of financial relief floods in. What a gift. Next time you’re at dinner with a friend, pick up the tab. I promise your kindness will be returned.

3. I Gave More Effectively Than Anyone Else

I believe every human life is worth exactly the same. This means the child who needs to eat in Nigeria is just as valuable as the man who needs money to fund his ALS treatment in America. What this also means is your generosity toward either of these individuals is equal. But the cost… is drastically different. It may only take N10,000 to feed a child in Nigeria for a month while $5 wouldn’t even dent a fraction of ALS treatment in America. I call this effective self- denial. I began looking for charities where my money had an impact somewhere else in the world. For example, for $10 you can provide someone clean water for 10 years with Living Water International. Or for $7 you can provide life-saving vaccinations to a child for 10 years with End 7. Also you can give to Joyce Meyer Ministries doing great to humanity. It was charities like these that made me realize that generosity, even in its smallest form, can still be significant.

The question is, will you join me? Not that I earn a lot or i boast am the best giver in the world, but we can always do better and put others in need to whatever need we have.

Do you give to anyone? Do you support a cause or maybe your church? What’s stopped you in the pas? Let me know in the comments below…

Pain Fades, Love Remains, Joy Returns

Pain is a part of this life. Brokenness is all around us. Parents split. Families’ abuse. The cancer wins. Children die. The only thing I know to be true is this: God is faithful. He is a deliverer. A healer. A savior. A protector. A warrior. A lover. A completer.

I’ve seen some pretty dark stuff in my days in this world. Perhaps the darkest was when I was still in the world, doing stuffs that had no meaning but hurting people around me. Also too many of my friends died. There was no escape from the pain. It was crushing. I never considered killing myself, but I can now see how some people could do it. The pain is simply too much to bear. It was the worst time of my life.

But God moved with a Mighty Hand. He heard me crying out and “He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand.” – Psalm – 40:2 God brought to me a community of faith that changed my life and surrounded me with an amazing family in Christ. I walked in to new life.

He restored my heart and healed me of the wounds. I saw how good and mighty He really is. I worship Him for His faithfulness to bind up a broken heart. It didn’t happen overnight, though. Even as mighty as He moved, healing is a process. It seemed as though the pain would always be with me but again His promises are true: Weeping may last for the night, but joy comes in the morning. Psalm 30:5

The night may last longer than you wish, but when The Lord is your God, the morning always comes.

This year will be the second since I lost some very good friends. Am sure they are in peace and with Jesus. Not only did God help me walk into new life, but He saw fit to completely heal me. I am free. Looking back, I realized that even though He had been healing me, I was still walking with a limp through life. While I was not under the weight of tragedy any longer, joy had not returned to my heart.

There was a weekend outing with some church friends, we challenged ourselves to some games filled with lots of laughs and fun. I cannot remember ever laughing so much. It was the best time I have had in years.

“He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God. Many will see and fear the LORD and put their trust in him.” Psalm 40:3

I would never wish such tragedy on my worst enemy but by clinging to Jesus during the night, He has restored my soul.

I know some of you have experienced terrible things, I know that. Just remember, no matter how long the night, the morning always comes. After that season, the Lord left me with a simple message I would share with you. The pain fades. Love remains. Joy returns.

Merry Christmas From Motivated And Free

Am sending my love to you guys. My professional colleagues in my community, my readers, and my followers. You guys made my 2018 great. Learnt a lot from you people and thank God we all here to celebrate Christmas.

So I decree and declare that…
This Christmas, I wish peace sequester your life, love flood your soul and happiness are reflected in your face, I wish you from the heart all the good that you deserve.
May you never miss LOVE … and if you do not find it, you already know where I live.

I wish you a Christmas full of mathematics: addicted to pleasure, subtracted from pain, multiplied with happiness and divided in love with the people that matter most to you.

Merry 🎅🎅🎅🎅🎅🎅🎅🎅🎅🎅

Repost: An Attitude Of Gratitude.

Originally posted on Everyday Answers.

Hi, thanks for stopping by to read my post today. I was surfing the internet and saw this beautiful piece, I couldn’t read it alone but to also share with you guys on my platform.

Most people would agree that we have a lot to be thankful for. After all, many of us live a lifestyle full of conveniences…

  • We live in comfortable homes, wear nice clothes, and have reliable transportation.
  • We have no shortage of clean water or healthy food.
  • We have access to quality healthcare and education, and basically live a good life with a lot of freedom, safety and security.

While it’s easy to take these wonderful blessings for granted—and begin to focus on what we don’t have—millions of people around the world live without the basic necessities of life.

I’ll never forget the time one of our sons went on a weekend outreach with a team of people to help the homeless. It was obvious that the experience touched him deeply. He called me and said:

“If I ever complain again, please knock me down for being so stupid!”

After he saw how some people were living, he was appalled at how he had complained about small things in his own life.

Just think about it…

We can complain about trivial things like cleaning the house. However, those without a place to live would love to have a house to clean.

Or have you ever complained about the regular costs of maintaining your vehicle? I’m sure we’ve all had our day ruined by an unexpected repair. However, a person without transportation dreamsabout having a car to drive.

It is so easy to forget how blessed we are! That’s why maintaining an attitude of gratitude is something we need to do on purpose.

This “little thing” can make a big difference…

I want you to try something. As you go about your day, make a point to be grateful for the things you may otherwise not even notice.

For instance, I really like coffee. Sometimes I take a moment in the morning to thank God for this “little thing” that brings me joy and comfort.

Or how about the blessing of having hot water? It’s something we can easily take for granted, but it makes our lives so much better!

As you begin to thank God for the seemingly small things in your life, it will help you to focus on the positive and everything you do have. As result, you will also be much happier!

Invite God into everything you do…

One of the best things we can do throughout the day is praise God while we work.

No matter what you’re trying to build—your home, your marriage, your business, financial security, or even an exercise plan—you can worship God as you work.

At my conferences, I make sure to be in the service as soon as the praise and worship begins because I love to be in God’s presence. In fact, before I speak to an audience, I make sure I have entered into praise and worship.

I want to fix my thoughts on God, thank Him for what He’s done in my life and for the words He’s giving me to speak, and I want to give Him praise for everything else He’s going to do.

We need to praise God because we love Him. It actually draws us closer to Him, which helps us hear the Word clearly, receive it, and hold on to it through faith.

This will help you to see more clearly…

Giving thanks throughout the day is simply a way to show God how grateful we are for who He is.

Regularly giving thanks to God not only helps us fully realize how He’s working in our lives, it gives us a new perspective—our mind is renewed, our attitude is improved, and we are filled with joy (see Psalm 16:11).

I am truly amazed at how two people can have the exact same circumstances, however one person can be negative, dissatisfied and hopeless while the other is optimistic and full of joy!

Praise makes all of the difference. Living life with a heart of gratitude for who God is and what He has done for us lifts our burdens and causes us to see everything in a different light.

Each moment that we’re given is a precious gift from God. We can choose to have a thankful attitude and live each moment full of joy…simply because God is good.

Please feel free to comment, like, and repost.

Things I Am Grateful For Today (And Always)

1. That humans are a self-healing species.

2. The infinitude of people wiser and more talented than I, because of whom I will always be able to learn more, see differently, understand better, and generally be entertained.

3. That anytime something hasn’t worked out the way I wanted it to initially, something better did. Always. Without fail.

4. My wife is with me when I was researching this. Been thankful for everything God has done for us.

5. The abundance of foods and cultures and restaurants and diners that exist in my little corner of the world, and that I get to taste a little bit of everything as often as I like.

6. I have never once in my life worried about being too cold in the winter because I couldn’t afford a sweater or jacket.

7. Friends who have loved me more than I loved myself, and who taught me how to love myself.

8. Hugs.

9. Cooking, and sharing it with others. It’s been something I have really grown a love for this past year.

10. That nothing lasts forever, which is, essentially, just a call to be present.

11. That I live in a hemisphere that experiences all four seasons.

12. Second chances. Third chances. Forgiveness. The ability to say: thank you for that experience, and mean it.

13. Nature. And trees. The after-rain smell, the springtime smell. Mountains and trails and and the fact that I have feet and legs to walk them.

14. The funny fact that the nature of realizing a problem is also you recognizing that there is a solution.

15. My job. The fact that I get to write every day. The other amazing writers and producers I get to read and work with and publish.

16. Coffee, and coffee shops at night.

17. A long meal in a dimly lit restaurant with a bottle of wine and someone you love.

18. The excitement of knowing you have reservations for a long meal in a dimly lit restaurant with a bottle of wine and someone you love.

19. That I have rent to pay, dishes to do, laundry to fold, and dinner to cook; because it means I have my own home, have eaten, am clothed, and have more food available to me.

20. How much joy the little things bring (knowing that that joy is always accessible.)

21. Finding a song you love so much you listen to it 20 times in a row and it just gets better and better with every word and riff and beat you start to memorize.

22. Handwriting anything.

23. Farmers markets.

24. The smell of someone you’re falling in love with, right when you’re falling in love with them.

25. The fact that there is no limit to the number of people we can fall in love with – and that it is possible to do so, each time, as wholly as we did before.

26. Confident people who live their lives and speak their truths and redefine beauty and greatness and wonder and what it means to LIVE just by the nature of their living. (People don’t become inspiring by trying to help others, just by being themselves.)

27. Kids. I envy teachers (though I acknowledge how much work they do and how crappy I’d be as one). Regardless, my real joy in life is playing games in my comfort zone and eating biscuit with a cup of fresh juice, watching my favourite season movies.

28. Warm, comfy beds.

29. The simple, perfect knowledge that my only real purpose is to be. Right here, just like this. My name will fade with successions of generations, and eventually, one day, nobody will know I existed. But for now, just for today, I am awake and alive to see and feel and breathe and live in a foreign, temporary body. If there is something more beautiful than that, show it to me, I’ll be surprised.

30. Everything I have healed, everything I have learned, and how being happy, being present, creating more, and being abundant in every way, always begins with thankfulness.

Very Important Life Lessons

I want to share with you 4 very important life lessons that were reinforced for me over the 3 hours.

These are truly foundations for our happiness and success.

While I’ve had these reflections individually many times in the past, recently all 4 have culminated together for me and it feels like they’re now written in the cells of my body, singing out to be aligned with and honored!

Okay let’s dive in to the points!!!

VIL 1. Do Only What Resonates

Resonance is a feeling you get, telling you that something is good, aligned, and right for you.

The opposite of resonance is dissonance, meaning you feel something isn’t aligned.

Too many people navigate their lives doing things that do not resonate, in places that are not resonant, with people who don’t resonate with them.

If we make our choices about what we do in life based on our thinking mind alone, we can end up in all sorts of trouble and dissonance like this.

Instead, we need to notice what we feel, what RESONATES when we are making our choices about work, money, relationships, health, lifestyle and more.

VIL 2. Be in a State of Ease

As you go about whatever you do, personally and professionally, it’s all about HOW you do it.

Too often we race around in life in such a hurry to get things done, resisting life, aggrieved by things that bother us, frustrated by unexpected situations and people that seem to distract us from what we would prefer to be experiencing.

We may push ahead and force with strong, intentional energy to “get things done” and achieve our goals, but to what end?

Are we sitting there at the finish line feeling ragged and worn? And/or have we left a trail of issues behind us, paying a price in our health, relationships, finances or lifestyle because of the way we have been operating?

If you want to have a happy life then:

  • Recognize how it feels inside your body when you are at ease – there is a lightness to that feeling, a grace, a flow.
  • Recognize how it feels inside your body when you are pushing, forcing, racing, resisting, stressed and tense – there is a very definite physiological difference to ease!
  • Pay attention in your daily life to what you feel in your body – you will quickly start to notice if you’re operating from a state of ease and grace, or from a state of stress and tension.
  • Use breathing and a mantra to shift yourself back into ease in that moment. e.g Breathe in, “I choose to feel at ease”, breathe out, “All is well and I’m in my flow”

VIL 3. Remember You Can’t Do Everything

Well, technically you can do everything you want (over your lifetime) but you most definitely can’t do it all at once!

You can’t please everyone, you can’t be all things to all people, and you can’t achieve all your goals in one go while also caring for your relationships, health, work and personal life. So you have to make conscious choices about what to give your precious energy to.

I recently read a wonderful book on Essentialism – the art of focusing on what is essential, and not getting distracted by the gazillions of non-essential things that call for one’s attention each day. And my takeaway so far, which is so profound for me, is this…

There will be many good things you can focus on and give your time to. But there are only a small handful of GREAT things. To be most effective and successful, means deciphering the great from the good – saying yes to great, saying no to good…

I’ve previously had a major issue with this, struggling to say no to good things. It’s like we’re wired to say yes to all the good things in life. Good people, good opportunities, good experiences, good ideas. But there are actually many goodies! And we can’t do it all. From experience, trying to do it all leaves you burned out!

So, if you want to be highly effective AND happy, then:

VIL 4. Every Path Has Both Pros and Cons

And here is the very important lesson…

In saying goodbye, I was sobbing with such a deep, deep sadness in my heart. Yet, at the very same time, in every cell of my body as I bawled my eyes out hugging my parents and siblings goodbye, I knew what my intuition was telling me – to continue my path (even though my path leads me away from the physical presence of those I love).

When it comes to having an amazing life, please know that there is no perfect. There is only the choice of living your most soul-aligned path, whatever that looks like in any given moment, and accepting all that it gifts you and teaches you as you flow with it.

So, if you want to go big on your goals, and live the life of your dreams, then:

  • Focus on your inner voice, celebrate the pros of your path, peacefully accept the cons.
  • Such cons will exist with all choices. It’s called opportunity cost. With one path chosen, all other paths are not. But rest assured your soul will always lead you to the life experience you are here on this beautiful earth to have.
  • Leave no room for fear to reside in your mind. Trust yourself and remind yourself regularly of why you make the choices you do and why your goals are important.
  • Keep it real – SOMETIMES THE RIGHT CHOICE AND DIRECTION CAN ALSO BE THE HARDEST. And this, my friends, is the colorful ride that we call life!

Guys don’t get it twisted. Ain’t the writer of this. Lol! As mentioned in my first paragraph, i got motivated just some few hours back reading this beautiful piece that so referred to my life. All credit goes to Bernadette Logue.