You Are Allowed To Admit You’re Not Okay

Hey guys,

You’re not okay if you’re spending every single day in bed, barely moving from your room, rarely answering texts or engaging in any type of human interaction.

You’re not okay if you’re crying your eyes out every single night before you go to sleep, if you’re skipping showers almost every single morning, if you’re losing energy early in the afternoon when you’ve hardly even started your day yet.

You’re not okay if you’re always telling lies about why you’ve been acting so distant from your friends, why you’ve been locked inside your house lately, why you haven’t been in the mood to go out, why your eyes are always so red and puffy.

You’re not okay if you’ve lost interest in things you used to love, if you’ve lost energy, if you’ve lost passion, if you’ve lost the desire to roll out of bed when your alarm rings.

You’re not okay if you’ve been feeling off, like you’re not exactly yourself, like something needs to change. You’re not okay if you’re worried you’re going to feel this way forever. You’re not okay if you’re hoping thing are going to change soon.

You need to understand that not okay doesn’t mean not normal. There are so many people in this world feeling similar to how you’re feeling. You’re not alone. You’re not weird. You’re not crazy. You’re just a human going through a hard time right now.

If you’re not okay, you shouldn’t be embarrassed about it, but you should do something about it. You should reach out to get the help you deserve. You should make the choice to make a lifestyle change. You should see if you can find a therapist to talk to about your situation. You should pour your energy into finding a way to cultivate happiness moving forward.

You don’t want your life to be about existing until the next day, the next hour, the next minute. You want it to be about looking forward to the next day, the next hour, the next minute. In order for that to happen, you need to find things you enjoy. You need to get excited about waking up in the morning again. You need to ask yourself what you want and how you’re going to get it.

The time to play pretend is over. It’s time to start taking care of yourself. It’s time to decide you deserve happiness. You deserve to feel proud of yourself. You deserve to wake up in the morning with energy.

When you pretend you’re okay, you’re pretending you don’t need to fix your situation. You’re pretending your mental health isn’t a priority. You’re pretending talking to someone isn’t going to help. You’re pretending you’re perfectly fine living like this day after day after day.

But you’re not okay — and it’s okay to admit that. It’s okay to ask for help. It’s okay to start taking better care of yourself. It’s okay to decide you matter. Your happiness matters. Your well-being matters. Your life matters.

Don’t pretend to be okay. Everyone needs help!!!

Seyi Awolowo: A Leaders Race To Winning Big Brother Naija 2019 “Pepperdem”

This is a sponsored post.

Seyi Awolowo is more than the next winner of Big Brother Naija 2019. He’s a model of leadership who demonstrates traits and characteristics that are essential for present day leaders and professionals.

Before and after the signing of the Emancipation Proclamation, Abraham Lincoln confronted a variety of trials and obstacles, but remained committed to his vision to create a free nation. Just like Lincoln, Seyi Awolowo embodies many admirable qualities, two are especially relevant:

Seyi Awolowo is a master listener.

Like most leaders, Seyi dealt with conflicting views and personalities in the big brother house, yet he’s known as a man who listened. People were free to oppose his point of view without fear of retaliation. Of course, listening wasn’t always an indication of Seyi’s agreement. He would simply listen to competing ideas, process what he’d heard, and then respectfully make his final decision.

Seyi Awolowo is a master communicator.

Seyi is a communicator who artfully wove his vision for a new Nigeria for the youths with the priorities of his team. This is no small feat, as one housemate wrestle with daily. Often, it’s difficult to make decisions especially now that he has the veto power to save himself. Seyi is a speaker of the people. In other words, he simplified his vision and presented it in a way that conveyed his understanding of the people.

Having a vision is one thing, but believing that it is possible and will happen is what separates a successful leader and others.

That leader is Seyi Awolowo.

Please show your support and love to this born leader with incredible leadership skills and brilliance in the Big Brother House this year.

By: Cardozo

Monday Motivation

When we invite God into our world, he enters. He brings several gifts: joy, patience, resilience. Anxieties arise, yet they do not remain. Fears arise and then disappear. The lamentations land on the windshield, but then the cleaner of prayer appears. The devil still throws stones of guilt at me, but I surrender them to Christ. The fights certainly arise … but also GOD arises! Prayer is not a privilege only for the religious, nor an Art for the chosen few. It is simply a sincere dialogue between God and his children. My friend, he wants to talk to you. Right now! As you read these words, he knocks on the door. Open the. Please welcome him. Let the dialogue begin!

– Kari Jobe