Happy New Month Guys

Don’t forget whatever challenges you facing at the moment isn’t forever. Keep hoping, striving, and motivated.

Most importantly, you are a winner 🏆 🥇 🏅

Topic of Failure Often Includes Habits

Many people follow a list of steps for a certain period of time, but then struggle to establish patterns they can stick to. But despite failure, I have discovered that we form habits in our lives whether we are intentional about creating them or not.

I’ve determined that creating a positive life requires replacing patterns that pull me away from a life of joy and purpose.

When I think about habits for a positive life, I think about feeding the soul. There is a lot of information and plenty of resources surrounding how to feed your mind and body, but not a lot on how to feed your soul. I believe nurturing the spiritual part of ourselves will then overflow into a positive mind and body. Here is a list of daily habits for a positive life:

1. Practice gratitude.

In a world of entitlement, we sometimes forget to be grateful. Acknowledging your blessings each night will put your mind in the positive state needed to welcome rest. Keep a notepad by your bed where you can write down your blessings. This way, if it’s been a hard day, you can see several examples of good.

2. Learn something new.

Continual learning and the growth produced, as a result, help to mold us into well-rounded people. We may not always be the best at the new things we try, but taking risks and being open to new learning will ultimately develop confidence and courage. Read a book, take an online class, or skim through articles about a topic that interests you. Growth from learning empowers positivity.

3. Connect with positive people.

Every now and then we find ourselves around a person who brings us down. If we build relationships with positive people and work on connecting each day, we will soon reflect that same positivity in our other relationships.

4. Let go of the past and focus on new possibilities.

It’s easy to get sucked into disappointment about the things we haven’t accomplished or the many failures we have all experienced. But if we take the time to dream and dwell in possibilities instead, we will soon develop a natural, positive way of thinking.

5. Share kindness.

The old saying, “Treat others the way you want to be treated” really holds true! Spreading kindness through words, acts of service, or giving your time not only instills positivity but also shares positivity. Practice taking notice of situations around you in which you could share a kind word or deed.

What are some ways you practice living a positive life? Let us know in the comments below.

How To Think Positively When Everything Goes Wrong?

Hi guys!

Trying to be positive when you’re grieving or experiencing other serious distress can seem impossible. During these times, it’s important to take the pressure off of yourself to find the silver lining.

Positive thinking isn’t about burying every negative thought or emotion you’ve got or avoiding difficult feelings. The lowest points, where we once thought, we are done. Actually, those are the ones that motivate us to move on and make positive changes.

When going through such a time, try to see yourself as if you were a good friend in need of comfort and sound advice. What would you say to them? You’d likely acknowledge their feelings and remind them that they have every right to feel sad or angry in their situation, and then offer support with a gentle reminder that things will get better.

Real-life Examples

Here are some real-life examples of Positive thinking. See, How people achieved something when even society loses hope on them.

We all know the persona behind the multinational Fast Food Joint KFC Colonel Sanders.

One of the foremost amazing aspects of his life is that the incontrovertible fact that when he reached the age of sixty-five, after running a restaurant for several years, Harland Sanders found himself penniless. He retired and received his first Social Security check which was for 100 and five dollars. which was just the start of his international fame and financial success story…

Colonel Sanders, a fellow who loved sharing his fried chicken recipe. He had tons of positive influence from those that tasted the chicken. Now, he was retired, and up in age, he chose to sell his cool new chicken recipe to the planet. With little means at his disposal, he traveled door to door to houses to restaurants everywhere in his local area. He wanted to partner

with someone so he could promote his fried chicken recipe. Needless to mention, he was met with little enthusiasm.

Colonel Sanders started traveling by car to different restaurants and cooked his fried chicken recipe on the spot for the restaurant owners. If the owner liked the chicken, they might enter into a handshake agreement to sell the Colonel’s chicken. Legend has it that before having his first “yes” he heard 1009 “no”s.

Colonel ahead of his first KFC store. The deal was that for every piece of chicken the restaurant sold, Sanders would receive a nickel. The restaurant would receive packets of Colonel’s secret herbs and spices so as to avoid them knowing the recipe. In the year 1964, He had 600 franchises. At this point, he sold his company for $2 million dollars but remained as a spokesperson. In 1976, the Colonel was ranked because of the world’s second most recognizable celebrity.

It’s amazing how the person started at the age of 65, when most retire, and built a worldwide empire out of fried chicken. No time is lost. Keep going!

Practicing positive thinking every day

If you tend to possess a negative outlook, don’t expect to become an optimist overnight. But with practicing positive thinking, one day, all your self-talk will contain less self-criticism and more self-acceptance. you’ll also subside critical of the planet around you.

When your state of mind is usually optimistic, you’re better ready to handle everyday stress in a more constructive way.

You won’t be able to undo years of pessimism and negative thoughts overnight, but with some practice, you can learn how to approach things with a more positive outlook.

Have a productive week!

What Is Motivation And How To Get Motivated

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What is Motivation?

Motivation is the force that compels you to stick with your goals and achieve them. It’s the desire to run a marathon, excel at your job, and lose weight. Without motivation, you wouldn’t have any inclination to pursue greatness. Your basic motivations must first be met before you can start working towards improving the finer aspects of your life.

Once you’ve taken care of the basics, you’ll be ready to take on your higher purpose. Some will have a hard time sticking to their goals if they lack the passion behind their motivation. When your thoughts, goals, and actions are all in line, you’ll see yourself crossing the finish line before you know it.

The most important step is putting purpose and passion behind your motivation. That’s why you need to ask yourself:

“What goal is important enough to me, right now, that I can put my mind, body, and soul behind it?”

The Importance of Motivation

Finding and building motivation is vital as it will allow you to:

  • Change your habits
  • Become the best you
  • Set achievable goals
  • Learn how to manage time
  • Build skills and talents
  • Improve your mental health

Motivation has an exponential effect. In the beginning, it can be difficult to stick with your goals. When you’ve made it past the initial pain period, you’re more likely to keep working towards the finish line. You’ll find that in those moments it allows you to:

  • Adapt to a fast-paced, ever-changing environment
  • Function productively
  • Build courage and character
  • Increase your internal drive

Motivation is also linked with our physical and mental health. When we lack motivation, our well-being will diminish. Our basic needs will stop being met and our mind and body will suffer because of it.

You need to have the motivation to go to the gym and work out. You need to have the motivation to be a good parent, partner, and friend. When we start to become less motivated in simple tasks like cleaning our room, this has a butterfly effect that can negatively affect our well-being.

It’s for these reasons why you need to find your motivational drive. It’s a crucial aspect to living a Full Life and achieving happiness, success, and more.

Why Is It Difficult to Stay Motivated?

The tricky part about motivation is not starting, but staying motivated. Every New Year, thousands decide they’re going to change their lives. Fewer than 10 percent actually stick with their resolution, and that’s being generous. Below you’ll find many common reasons why you’re losing motivation.

Not Aiming High Enough

While it’s easy to think setting easy goals will keep you motivated, it may harm your long-term motivation. If you make goals that are too achievable, you’ll get bored and lose interest. Ideally, you want to strike a balance between pushing yourself and creating realistic goals.

If you’re used to staying within your comfort zone, you’ll be missing out on the satisfaction of achieving a life-changing goal. When you push yourself, you’ll be able to build unshakable confidence as you crush goal after goal. When you look around one day and you’re living your dream, it’ll all be worth it.

Here are 7 Reasons to Dare to Dream Big.

Suffering From Procrastination

If you find it hard to stay focused and get started, you’ll find yourself falling behind.

Procrastination is a bad habit that you must learn to deal with if you want to achieve your short-term goals. Some simple steps you can take to defeat procrastination are: commit to starting a task for at least 3 minutes, create daily, weekly, and monthly to-do lists; and reward yourself when you complete your tasks.

Unclear Vision

Uncertainty about the future is a fear that many of us deal with. It can be paralyzing, instead of taking action, we start worrying about “What if?”

“What if it doesn’t work out? What if my dream isn’t truly my dream? What if I don’t succeed?”

If you have trouble creating a vision, then you’re at risk of drifting aimlessly through life. When you find your purpose and passion, you’ll be driven to strive for excellence. You can start the process of discovering your life purpose by asking yourself: “What would my ideal life look like?”

This is how to Create a Vision for the Life You Want

Letting Fear Control Your Mind And Actions

Fear can prevent you from achieving your dreams. Instead of taking action and moving forward, you might be finding yourself apprehensive due to the fear of failure.

You mustn’t allow fear to hold you back. You’ll inevitably miss out on career, relationship, and self-improvement opportunities if you don’t learn how to manage your fears. Fortunately, fear can be overcome.

One way to manage fear is to look for the root cause of your fear. With deep introspection, you can uncover the exact moment that triggered the fear that has been hindering your growth. This will give you a window of opportunity to communicate with your inner being and find release.

Facing your fear is the only way you’ll be able to become the best version of yourself. You don’t need to fix your problem overnight, but taking slow, thoughtful actions can have massive impacts on how you deal with your inside and outside world.

Feeling Overwhelmed With Work and Responsibilities

Otherwise known as burnout, it places you into a state of depression from overexertion and you struggle to achieve your goals. Burning out occurs when we put our well-being on the back burner to further ourselves in our careers or hobbies.

When we feel overwhelmed and forget about ourselves, it becomes a challenge to unwind and find balance in life. Burning out is a sign that you’re motivated, but you need to learn how to separate work and home life. Without this separation, the lines begin to blur and you may find it increasingly difficult to find motivation for yourself when you’re constantly wiped out from work.

Getting and staying motivated will make an immense difference in your life. You’ll be able to tackle those goals and dreams that you’ve put aside for years. You’ll also be able to set yourself new and exciting goals that you would never have considered before.

Stay motivated always!

Guest post from Life Hack.

10 Quick Tips to Make Someone Happy Today

Since you get more joy out of giving joy to others, you should put a good deal of thought into the happiness that you are able to give.” #quote
Eleanor Roosevelt

One of the best ways to create a happier life for yourself is to make other people happier.

Why?

  • You see it. You’ll feel happier as someone’s face lights up with joy.
  • You did a good thing. You’ll feel happier because you feel you have done a good thing. And so your self-esteem shoots up too.
  • You get what you give. In the long run you tend to be treated by others as you treat them. Plus, the way you treat and think about others also tends to be the way you treat and think about yourself.

So how can you make someone happy today?

Here are 10 quite tips you can start doing today. Pick one and see how it can affect someone in your life.

1. Give a sincere compliment. Many positive things tend to go unsaid. So give someone a sincere compliment today. It can mean especially much if it’s for something that is close to the other person’s heart. Or something he or she has been putting in a good effort with like getting into better shape for the last few months.

2. Hold the door open for a few extra seconds. It doesn’t take much of an effort but it can put a smile on someone’s face.

3. Express your gratitude for what is too often taken for granted. We may sometimes take what others do a bit too much for granted. Like the food they cook, how they keep doing their job consistently each and every day or how to they are there to listen when we need it.

4. Encourage. The world can be a tough and discouraging place at times. So encourage someone who is in a negative situation at the moment. Add your own perhaps more grounded and optimistic perspective on the situation to lessen his or her worries and perhaps exaggerated fears.

5. Tell a good – or terrible – joke. Or a funny story about something that happened to you last week.

6. Share something funny you found online. Play one of your favorite clips from a stand-up show you love if you are out of jokes and good stories at the moment.

7. Share a Spotify-playlist with the most inspiring and uplifting songs you know. Send it to a friend that needs it right now. Or share it with family, friends or co-workers on social media.

8. Give a stranger a compliment. Few things can brighten a day like getting a kind and unexpected compliment from someone you pass by or you have just met. So take a few seconds and give that to someone you encounter today and tell her how nice her shoes, hat or hairstyle looks. Or ask him where he where he got that cool t-shirt or umbrella.

9. Help out practically with advice. If a friend needs some help then ask someone you know who has been in that situation for advice. Or do a bit of online research to find what he she might be looking for.

10. Give a hug. It unstresses and it can disrupt negative thoughts and change someone’s mood surprisingly quickly. Use when appropriate though.

11. Smile. Even if you’re only spending 30 seconds on talking to the cashier in the supermarket checkout line.

12. Just listen. It’s sometimes all that’s needed to help someone out of a negative headspace.

13. Bring the positivity. If you bring positivity and an open, happy and good energy into a conversation for example then that tends to spread and the two of you or more will have happier lunch break, evening down at the pub or coffee date in the crisp autumn sunshine.

14. Share some of your tasty homemade cookies. Or bread, ice cream or jerky.

15. Let someone into your lane while you’re driving. It can unstress his or her day quite a bit.

Share to someone who needs this..

Tip 3: How To Be A Good Listener

Hey guys!

Hope tip 2 was of help to you or someone you know who needs this. Let’s go straight ro tip 3.

How to be a good listener: Showing you care builds trust to open up.

  • Make eye contact and put away your phone.
  • Focus completely on the other person.
  • Pauses are fine, try not to jump in to fill a silence.
  • Say back what you think it is they are wanting you to hear.
  • Resist putting your own interpretation on it.
  • Don’t give up. Sometimes it can take a few tries..

Please share and help a friend today.

Tip 2: For Helping Someone Open Up When Something’s Up

Hey guys!

Trust you having a great day. This is a continuation of my previous post. Hope Tip 1 was helpful? Here is Tip 2.

How To Open Up A Conversation

Don’t be shy to ask how someone’s feeling:

  • Choose a good time, and somewhere without distractions.
  • Use open questions that need more than a yes/no answer.
  • How are things? I’ve noticed you don’t seem quite yourself.
  • Listen well. How’s that making you feel?
  • Avoid giving your view of what’s wrong, or what they should do.

Help someone today by sharing.

Thank you!

I Am Slowly Learning That The Only Person I Am In Competition With Is Myself

I am slowly learning that the only place that the competition for being a good and worthy person exists is in my own mind.

I am slowly learning that every time being “better than” someone or something else motivates me, it’s because I don’t have my own motivations.

I am slowly learning that the only person I am in a competition with is myself. Not only because the only thing I should compare myself to is my past, but because competing with other people is something that breeds from fear and insecurity.

I am slowly learning that the only person who is judging me is me – and I am slowly learning that there’s no prize for winning this.

When you are in competition with someone in your mind, you are not trying to be better than them. You are trying to re-define your self-image comparatively. You don’t feel good enough on your own, and so you have to grift off of the perceived inadequacy of someone else.

It’s not really a competition and it never was. It was just you telling yourself that there’s no way for you to feel good about something on your own, and so at least if you can be better than someone else, you’re okay.

It is unsustainable. It keeps you in a war with yourself. It makes you resistant to change. It makes you not want to succeed because you don’t want to be back on the battlefield.

If you can imagine your best, highest and most loving self, they aren’t sitting around thinking at least I’ve got more than (so-and-so). Of course they aren’t. They are happy on their own. The less happy you are, the more you need other people to be.

The competition exists for an imaginary audience in your mind. It exists for a faceless group of “people.” The secret is that those people are a projection of how you really feel. It’s the safer way to express your suppressed feelings about worthiness.

Winning the competition in our minds does not improve us, it degrades us. It gives a false high and forces us to keep leveling our worth against someone else’s.

More importantly, it does not move our lives forward. It drives us toward working against others, which almost always means we aren’t working for the true betterment of ourselves.

If you need envy, jealousy, and superiority to drive you, you should take a good, hard look at what you’re moving toward.

What needs to change isn’t how hard you try. You don’t need to augment your willpower. You have to be very, very honest with yourself about what it is you think you want and why it is that deep down, you actually don’t.

It means you also have to be honest about the ways in which your life is not fulfilling you. They teach you in middle school that bullies are the people who are suffering most, but when you’re the bully and the victim, the answer is that you’re not giving yourself something you need. You’re not building the life you really want.

So instead of wondering what would incite the envy of everyone you know, dream of what would feel so good you wouldn’t be able to stop and think of their opinions for a second. Imagine what would be so gratifying that even if you lost every pretend competition in your mind, it wouldn’t matter.

Imagine what it would take to be blissfully happy even if you weren’t the smartest, happiest, most successful person in the room. The reality is if you want to live by comparisons, you never will be anyway. There will always be someone next to whom you feel inferior.

The only person you are fighting is yourself. And when you’re on both sides of the battlefield, even when you win, you lose.

Guest post by Brianna Weist

How It Started With Colonel Sanders And Birth Of Kentucky Fried Chicken

Hey guys!

Let’s go back in history to proof a point that rejection is actually the gateway to success.

Once, there was an elderly man, who was broke, living in a tiny house and owned a beat up car. He was living off $99 social security checks. At 65 years of age, he decided things had to change. So he thought about what he had to offer.

His friends raved about his chicken recipe. He decided that this was his best shot at making a change.

He left the state of Kentucky in America and travelled to different states to try to sell his recipe. He told restaurant owners that he had a mouthwatering chicken recipe.

He offered the recipe to them for free, just asking for a small percentage on the items sold. Sounds like a good deal, right?



Unfortunately, not to most of the restaurants. He heard NO over 1000 times. Even after all of those rejections, he didn’t give up. He believed his chicken recipe was something special. He got rejected 1009 times before he heard his first YES.

With that one success Colonel Hartland Sanders changed the way Americans eat chicken. Kentucky Fried Chicken, popularly known as KFC, was born.

At the moment, KFC is a worldwide franchise filling people’s belly with good food to snack around.

NB: Remember, never give up and always believe in yourself in spite of rejection.

2022: Never Stop Chasing Your Dreams

Hey guys,

Never give up because you’re lucky to have something you feel this passionately about pursuing. Some people search their whole lives for meaning, for a purpose, for an outlet that brings them happiness. You’ve already found that thing, which means you’re one step closer to your dreams than most people because you actually know what your dreams are. You know what you want. You just have to go out there and get it.

Never give up because you’re not going to know what you’re capable of achieving unless you keep going. You’re never going to have any idea of how far you would’ve gone if you allow yourself to stop prematurely. Besides, what’s the worst thing that could happen if you keep chasing after your dreams? You might not reach them? At least, if you’re actively trying, then you have a chance at success. If you give up now, then it’s guaranteed that you’re never going to get where you wish you were. You might as well put the odds in your favor.

Never give up because persistence is even more crucial than talent. You’re not going to achieve all of your dreams in a short amount of time. You’re not going to get rewarded overnight. It’s going to be a long ride. You’re going to have to remain patient. You’re going to have to stay motivated, even when you feel like you’re off your game. You’re going to have to keep trying, even when the world is warning you you’re wasting your time.

Never give up because you’re going to regret it if you give up on your dreams. You’re going to look back on your decision to stop and wish you would have put in a little more effort, a little more time. You don’t want your future self to be pissed at your current self. Do yourself a favor and continue chasing after your dreams. Even if you don’t reach your goals, at least you won’t have to stay up late at night for the rest of your life worrying about the what ifs.

Never give up because you deserve to see your hard work pay off. You deserve to call yourself successful. You deserve to be proud of yourself. Right now, you might be questioning whether you’re good enough, but you cannot allow your insecurities to hold you back. Even once you reach your goal, you’re still going to have doubts. The nagging voice in the back of your mind is never going to go away, so you have to learn to live with it. You have to realize that even though what it’s saying might sound true doesn’t mean it is true.

Never give up because you’re making more progress than you realize. You’re closer to your destination that you would ever imagine. You might not be able to see it now — and if you give up, then you’re never going to see it. You’re never going to know how many more steps you needed to take to reach your dreams. That’s why you have to keep going. You can’t give up on yourself. You can’t let go of your wildest dreams.

A guest post and credit to Holly Riordan.

Don’t Quit

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will.

When the road you’re trudging seems all up hill.

When the funds are low and the debts are high.

And you want to smile, but you have to sigh.

When care is pressing you down a bit.

Rest, if you must, but don’t you quit.

Life is queer with it’s twists and turns.

As every one of us sometimes learns.

And many a failure turns about when he might have won had he stuck it out:

Don’t give up though the pace seems slow

You may succeed with another blow.

Success is failure turned inside out.

The silver tint of the clouds of doubt.

And you never can tell how close you are.

It may be near when it seems so far:

So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit.

It’s when things seem worst that you must not QUIT…

You Glow Differently When You Let The Pain Go

You glow differently when you let the pain go. The pain of the past. The pain of your childhood. The pain of your breakup. The pain of your failures. You glow differently when you don’t let pain define you. When you take the lessons it taught you and turn them into wisdom, into art or into stepping stones on your way to resilience.

You glow differently every time people expect you to break but you don’t crack. You’ve survived storms before. You’ve overcome tragedies and painful experiences before. You can do this. You glow differently when you allow yourself to feel the pain without letting it permeate your life. When you let it all out but continue to live your life to the fullest. When you let the darkness roll out but let the sunlight in the next morning.

You glow differently when you don’t let your heartbreak stop you from finding love again, when it becomes your motivation to find your passion or get back in touch with your friends or meet new people. You glow differently when you believe that these things end for a very good reason, even though you might not understand it right away, it’s what’s best for you. You glow differently when you believe that God won’t take something away from you unless something better is on the way.

You glow differently when you don’t let your childhood wounds define you. Whether it was how your parents treated you or what they told you about love or about yourself. You glow differently when you forgive yourself. When you don’t carry the burdens of your childhood with you. When you don’t let the darkness of the past shadow the brightness of your future.

You glow differently when you’re not scared of pain, when you’re not ashamed of your scars, when you’ve found a way to accept the pain and you’re not ashamed to tell your story. When you let your pain inspire you to dig out your inner strength, your power or your talent. You glow differently every time you grow out of your pain and find happiness again.

You glow differently every time you heal because it looks so damn good on you.

Share to your loved ones who needs this.

Bless.

The Happiness You Seek May Not Present Itself The Way You Had Anticipated

Who can relate?

Since happiness can come in many forms, such as joy, fulfillment, contentment, euphoria, etc. It can sometimes be difficult to see when you have accomplished your goal of being happy.

If this sounds strange, then look at it this way.

If you had imagined that to be really happy you would need to be retired, with an excellent pension, so that you have both the time and money to do things you enjoy, then it can come as a surprise to find that if you simply reorganise your working week, go part-time and prioritize your hobbies, you are already nearly there!

The reason for this is that you had anticipated needing time and wealth in order to be happy, when what you actually needed was time and the ability to reallocate your resources. Furthermore, you may have expected that you would need to retire in order to free up your time when in fact cutting down on your working hours, or working from home part of the week can also accomplish the same thing.

Necessarily, if you are willing to encompass happiness in whatever form it may present itself, and even to enjoy it in different forms according to the occasion., then you are likely to lie low in far more places than you imagined, just waiting to be unearthed and enjoyed. Don’t forget that the journey can provide happiness along the way too, so try to get into the habit of enjoying what you have, at each point along the way.

NB: Happiness can both be subjective and elusive, but it can also be found in the most unlikely places, and on a daily basis.

Have a wonderful weekend.

Today’s Nugget: Get Real

Hey guys!

Everything I post on this platform is a true life experience and story I share. Even in the midst of the storm, I still try to keep myself positive and also share with others how we can all overcome anger, disappointment, and challenges.

Being in control of your life and having realistic expectations about your day-to-day challenges are the keys to stress management, which is perhaps the most important ingredient to living a happy, healthy and rewarding life.

We must accept that you might fail when you try your best and still don’t win, at least you can be satisfied that you’ve tried. If you don’t accept failure as a possibility, you don’t set high goals, you don’t branch out, you don’t try- you don’t take the risk.

Be realistic about what you can do and what you can’t do. So whatever you do must really worth it.

Credit to: Queen Latifah, Rosalynn Carter, and Marilu Henner.