Let’s go back in history to proof a point that rejection is actually the gateway to success.
Once, there was an elderly man, who was broke, living in a tiny house and owned a beat up car. He was living off $99 social security checks. At 65 years of age, he decided things had to change. So he thought about what he had to offer.
His friends raved about his chicken recipe. He decided that this was his best shot at making a change.
He left the state of Kentucky in America and travelled to different states to try to sell his recipe. He told restaurant owners that he had a mouthwatering chicken recipe.
He offered the recipe to them for free, just asking for a small percentage on the items sold. Sounds like a good deal, right?
Unfortunately, not to most of the restaurants. He heard NO over 1000 times. Even after all of those rejections, he didn’t give up. He believed his chicken recipe was something special. He got rejected 1009 times before he heard his first YES.
With that one success Colonel Hartland Sanders changed the way Americans eat chicken. Kentucky Fried Chicken, popularly known as KFC, was born.
At the moment, KFC is a worldwide franchise filling people’s belly with good food to snack around.
NB: Remember, never give up and always believe in yourself in spite of rejection.
According to Carolyn Joyce, Rejection is an almost unavoidable aspect of being human. We all face rejection in our daily lives, be it relationship, job offers, promotion, or other reasons. We all experience it, and yet, those times when we do are often the times we feel the most alone, outcast, and unwanted.
In fact, so much of the hurt and struggle we endure isn’t even based on the loss itself but on what we tell ourselves about the experience, the cruel ways we put ourselves down or flood ourselves with hopeless thoughts about the future.
When disappointment or rejection knocks you down, get back up and go again. No time for slippery, but keep moving. We give in to rejection and disappointment so easily when our dreams does not come to pass or go the way we planned it to be. We need to understand that just as God supernaturally opens doors, sometimes God supernaturally closes it. And when God closes a door, it’s always because He has something better in store. So just because the end of the road came early in your life or rather you’ve come to a dead end, that’s not the time to give up.
You know what?
Take a different route and keep going.
Often, out of the dreadful rejection comes our greatest direction. So when you come to the end of the road, or something you have been working on didn’t come through, instead of seeing that as the end, regard that as God nudging you into a better direction. It will be annoying and uncomfortable; and we may not like it. But we cannot make the mistake of just sitting back and settling where we are.
NB: If we can embrace this idea that life is flexible and that losses offer us opportunity, we can grow more within ourselves and suffer less when we experience a rejection.
The word ‘rejection’ terrifies this generation because we assume it means that we failed or we’re not good enough. We assume it means that we can’t win the game or get what we want. We assume that it makes us look weak, bad and inadequate.
But the essence of life is change and adapting to the things we can’t control including the things that rejected us and the things we couldn’t get. It’s not a direct reflection of our own shortcomings but it’s just a natural part of life and it happens to everyone. And I meanEVERYONE.
But we never look at the other side of rejection, at the possibility that maybe we wanted something that wasn’t going to be right for us or we wanted someone who wasn’t going to treat us right. We never try to understand what rejection is trying to tell us. It’s trying to tell us that we’re knocking on the wrong door. We’re going the wrong way. We’re trying so hard for something that could cause us so much pain.
I always look back at the times I was rejected from something and how it always led me to something better. I look back at the times I thought someone was great or irreplaceable only to discover that they were not genuine or kind. Sometimes we don’t see the obvious truth because we’re fixated on the word ‘rejection’ and how we can literally do anything to avoid it, even if it means destroying ourselves and forgetting our worth. I eventually found something better and wondered why I can’t learn to embrace rejection and take it as an opportunity to grow.
You might not get the things you want but you will get the things you need. You might not get the person you love but you will end up with the person who adores you and shows you a different kind of love.
Why can’t we see the blessings in rejection? Why are we only looking for the instant gratification of the word ‘yes?’ Given that many times ‘yes’ broke our hearts too and left us with nothing.
We contradict ourselves because we keep saying that if something is meant for us, it will find us, yet we can’t seem to shake rejection off, we can’t stop it from crippling us when it comes to taking risks and loving ourselves.
Rejection is also fate telling us that some things are not meant for us and if they were, we wouldn’t have been rejected. Rejection is another word forredirection.
Rejection sucks by all means and no one likes the bitter taste of the word‘no’but it’s also preparing us for something bigger than what we wanted for ourselves. It teaches us that God’s plan will always be better than ours and sometimes that’s all the faith we need to get over the fear of rejection and actually learn how to embrace it.
Guest post from Rania Naim.
Originally posted on Thoughts Catalog.