Who Are You, and Who Do You Want to be?

Hi guys!

Typically, when you look for role models, you want someone who has your interests and came from the same background. Well, look how restricting that is. What people should do is take role models à la carte. If there’s someone whose character you appreciated, you respect that trait – Neil deGrasse Tyson

Know Yourself

The inspiration provided by role models can be useful short cut to a quick fix of feeling good. But in order for this to work, you first need to know yourself. At first glance this may sound obvious – indeed, you might well assume that you already know yourself rather well! The truth, however is that usually we don’t know ourselves as well as we think we do. This can be for some reasons listed below.

  • A lack of self awareness
  • Not wanting to look at ourselves too closely, either consciously or subconsciously
  • Assuming that we already know ourselves and therefore don’t need to look
  • Not wanting to face weaknesses

It is only by knowing yourself on every level and in every way that you can fully benefit from the example set by role models.

Inspiring Role Models

Once you have identified your strengths and weaknesses, your character traits, how you think and how you behave, so on… you will have a good understanding of the gaps you need to be able to fill in order to make the best of every situation. You are now in the best position to choose a role model/models, by identifying people who are strong in the areas in which you are weak.

You need to select role models who will inspire you When faced with a difficult problem, by being able to think through what they might do, and how they might overcome the challenges with which you are faced.

Who Do You Want To Be?

Following your role models can be a fun way to share in their successes, but in order to enjoy such achievements yourself, you will need to decide not only what you want to do with your life, but who you want to be. Trying thinking of yourself as the blank canvas actors assume before creating a character. You could be anything, do anything and achieve anything you want to. So what is it that you really want to do? Who would you want to be this time next year, in five or ten years time? Think of your role models in terms of life and career, but more successful.

A persistent and lasting happiness is difficult to achieve if you are not happy with who you are, but by improving yourself a little everyday you will ensure that you move consistently closer to becoming a ‘you’ who you want to be, and to achieving the happiness you desire.

I Hope You Never Stop Believing That Your Time Is Coming

I hope you never stop believing that the hard days are going to be over. The days of confusion, anxiety and overthinking will not be the center of your universe. The days of heartbreak and pain will not be how every story ends. I hope you always remember that you were promised ease after difficulties, a rainbow after a hurricane and love after heartache.

I hope you never stop believing that one of those days, you will get it right. Whether in your career or your love life. Whether in your finances or your health. You will eventually find the resources you need to make it happen. You will eventually have the determination to fight for the things that matter to you and make them work. You will eventually realign your priorities once you learn the hard way what’s important and what’s not.

I hope you never lose hope. I hope you always find ways to restore your hope and renew your faith. I hope you understand that maybe your hope is somewhere else, maybe it’s the city you’re in that makes you feel helpless or the person you’re with but the hope for a better life should always be there. The hope for better things to come should never leave your mind. I hope you never lose faith in God or in yourself because that will give you all the power you need when your life is falling apart.

I hope you never stand in your own way. I hope you don’t let your own thoughts belittle you or your actions stop you from trying to change or improve your life. I hope you always find the courage to take big risks or end bad relationships. I hope you always find yourself daring and dreaming. I hope you never let your fears define your life. I hope you always break all the rules and the barriers you set for yourself that limited you from living your life to the fullest.

I hope you have the wisdom to wait instead of giving up. I hope you understand that you’ll never understand timing or why things are taking too long to happen or why you feel stuck all the time. I hope you know how to live with these questions until you find the answers.

I hope you pursue those answers by taking action and trial and error instead of fear and complacency. I hope you learn from your lessons but I also hope you never stop making mistakes. I hope you never forget that you’re human. I hope that instead of searching for perfection, you search for meaning. Instead of searching for stability, search for happiness.

Instead of putting timelines and deadlines to your life, put an end to your doubts and never lose hope that when your time comes, it’s going to be better than anything you had imagined for yourself. It’s going to be worth the wait.