Despite What You Think Of Yourself, You Are Valuable

Hey guys!

It’s dangerous to assume your worth is tied to any one thing, whether that’s your career or your relationship or your friendships. If you get your validation from a single outside source, then your sense of worth is going to rise and drop on a daily basis. Your confidence is going to change based on how well that single area of your life is currently going.



You can’t allow your relationship status to determine your worth. It doesn’t matter whether you’re currently getting over a breakup. It doesn’t matter whether your heart is having trouble healing. It doesn’t matter whether you’re spending your nights in bed alone. It doesn’t matter whether you’re the last one of your friends who is still single. It doesn’t matter whether you thought you would be married with children by now. You value doesn’t change based on whether or not you’re in a relationship.

You can’t allow your social media stats to determine your worth. It doesn’t matter how many comments you get on a selfie. It doesn’t matter how many followers you have. It doesn’t matter how many people have been sliding into your DMs. It doesn’t matter whether anyone has checked your story in the last hour. Your value doesn’t changed based on your popularity on social media.

You can’t allow your career to determine your worth. It doesn’t matter how much money you’re making. It doesn’t matter whether you’re taking longer to achieve your goals than you feel like you should. It doesn’t matter whether your friends seem further ahead than you right now. It doesn’t matter whether you feel like you’re slowly falling behind. You value doesn’t change based on the amount of money in your bank account.

If you’re unhappy with a certain area of your life, then by all means, you should try to fix it. You should take action. You should make a change. But you should never let your unhappiness convince you that you’re not valuable as a human being.

You can’t allow a single aspect of your life to determine your worth. You have to determine your own worth.

You have to look in the mirror and say to yourself: I know what I think of me and I am valuable. I am worthwhile. I am loved.”

Thanks to Holly Riordan for the motivation.

Instead Of Focusing On Finding Something You Think Will Make You Happy, You Should Focus On Bettering Yourself

Bettering yourself doesn’t mean you’re broken. It doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you that needs fixing. It doesn’t mean you should be embarrassed or ashamed of yourself.

Bettering yourself simply means you’re going to put in the work to take care of yourself. It means, instead of pouring all of your effort into impressing other people, you’re pouring effort into making yourself happy.

Bettering yourself is going to raise your confidence. It’s going to encourage you to love yourself. It’s going to make you realize that whether or not you’re part of a couple has no correlation to your value. You’re worth the same amount as a single woman as you are as an engaged woman or a married woman. Your value doesn’t ebb and flow based on your relationship status.
Bettering yourself is going to encourage your growth. It’s going to inspire change. It’s going to push you to break your worst habits and develop healthier ones. It’s going to shape you into the type of person you can say you’re proud of, the type of person you can say you love.
Bettering yourself is going to help you heal, help you move forward, help you forget about the bad things that happened in the past and look forward to the good things that are bound to happen in the future. It will make you more excited for what’s to come, about what you could accomplish, about what the world has in store for you.

Bettering yourself is never done. It’s going to be a lifelong experience, so you’re going to have to stay dedicated, stay inspired, stay hopeful in yourself.

You can never go wrong with bettering yourself. In the process, you might even find the love you’ve been hoping to find. But if not, if you stay single for a while longer, then you’re not going to sweat it. You’re still going to be happy because you know a relationship doesn’t define you. You know a relationship isn’t the beginning or the end of the world. You know the one person who matters more than the future love of your life is yourself.

Be Good to Yourself this New Month: The Art of Self Love

We were all born and celebrated as cute little bundles of joy. Then we blossom and the cuteness somewhat fades away. Then comes the bosses, colleagues, mates, boys, men, and friends. This is when the seed of self-love you’ve sowed is put to test. If you have learnt the art of self-love, then you will easily get through life.

Loving yourself more is not being greedy, selfish or unfair. We are taught to be considerate and put others first but never how to love and prepare ourselves for the journey ahead. While you can be generous and kind, it shouldn’t be with a low self-esteem.

Self-esteem, self-care, self-acceptance, self-awareness, self-empowerment, self-respect, self-compassion, self-expression and self-worth are characteristics everyone should have. Notice that these words all begin with “self”?

We need to get over the fear of the unknown and understand our worth by simply practicing self-love. Self-love is not a one-time event but an endless, ongoing process.

“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.”
– Oscar Wilde

This New month of March, let us practice self-love and enjoy the joy and happiness we give ourselves.

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You’re Not Supposed To Have Every Answer, So Stop Trying To Race To The Finish Line

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You are not supposed to know everything right now.

You are not supposed to have every goal achieved and every decision made as quickly as you can.

You are not meant to race to the finish line of your life.

There is a pace to life that we have to honor. We cannot cut to the end of the story, we cannot demand it all at once, and we should not stress that we have not hit every milestone as early as possible.

There is a pace to life, and when we begin to see that there is a unique timing for everything, we begin to trust it more than we doubt it.

Sometimes, things don’t happen the moment we want them to because we are just not ready yet.

Sometimes, we have to learn how to handle little bits of success, so we are ready when they become massive. Sometimes, we have to learn to be okay by ourselves first, so we don’t ruin a relationship with unhealthy attachment. Sometimes, we have to learn to handle little criticisms here and there, so we’re ready when life takes off and people are really watching.

Sometimes, we just have more growing to do than we realize, and life always honors that — even if it lets you down in the moment. Just because you aren’t going as quickly as you thought does not mean you aren’t on your way.

There is no virtue to peaking too young. There is no real ambition that should culminate immediately after you’ve conceived of it. The real work is a lifelong commitment to excellence and the pursuit of a strong foundation, and a thriving soul.

You do not need to know everything that is in front of you yet.

When you set out on a road trip at night, you don’t expect your headlights to shine all the way through the darkness, miles and miles ahead of you, straight to your destination. All you can see is what is directly ahead of you, and that’s all you need to see. If you keep taking the next right step, you will arrive.

This is true even if you run into a roadblock along the way. You wouldn’t turn your car around because you couldn’t pass. You’d find another road. The same is true of your life journey.

Right now, you don’t feel lost because you actually have no idea where your life is going. You feel lost because you’re in transition. You have planted, or maybe sprouted, but not yet bloomed.

But you do not expect a bud to bloom on command. You bury its seed deeply, water it and give it light — and then you let it do what it was created to do, in its own time.

You are the exact same way.

Keep stepping forward. Take one right step, and then the next one. You do not have to have all the answers, you do not need to be your most perfect self right at this exact moment in time.

Sometimes, the growth process brings us somewhere unexpected, better than we conceived of originally. Sometimes, it delivers us right where we always wanted to be, as the people who are ready to step into the life we’ve been getting ready for.

The path is the process.

Trust it.

Credit: Brianna Weist

What I Wish Everyone Knew About  The Reasons Why Being An Introvert Is Your Best Asset.

I have heard it, too.
“You are so shy!”
“You’re like church mouse over there!”
“Oh… you wouldn’t like it… you have to talk and meet new people.”

Here is the thing – we are living in a society in which extroversion is glorified. It seems as if all those who are successful and have it made are the ones who easily and effortlessly put themselves out there and make themselves heard. While there are those great attributes of those who are extroverted, introverts have some great characteristics tied to their quiet, poised nature. This quality is one to be proud of – even celebrated. In fact, here are 6 reasons why being an introvert might just be your best asset!

1. You’re calm nature is inviting to people

Whether you realize it or not, this does not go unnoticed. Being the one who “takes it all in” in an upbeat environment is very calming. This invites people toward you, and subliminally they remember it about you as well.

2. Less talking = more observing

It seems to be so simple, yet it is so valuable. Speaking less gives your mind the ability to take in and process what is around you. Taking note of little details someone else might have missed. Being more present with someone, living in the now – it’s incredible just how much someone can miss by being lost in their mind and thinking about what to say next – instead of just being.

“Silence is a source of great strength.” – Lao Tzu

3. You get to know yourself more

This (and I cannot stress this enough) is important. Self-awareness is the key to serving yourself, giving your body/mind/soul what it needs. Spending more time with your thoughts – really thinking and understanding what you are perceiving will benefit you. It takes time to know yourself to a high extent. It is something to be proud of, because not everyone can say they truly know who they are.

4. You know how to listen

Hearing someone is one thing; listening to them is another. Active listening is proper, fully engaged and observant listening to not just the words they say but the way they say it, their body language, it all ties into true active listening. The whole reason someone might be talking to you is to get an idea or feeling across, but so much can be missed just by needing to get a word in. Introverts have the active listening trait in the bag – which is likely the reason so many of us are the people our friends and family vent to when they just need to be heard.

5. You can be independent

Value your independence, introvert! For many of us, working alone was never a negative thing. From a young age in the beginning of grade school when the teacher would say, “work independently or with a partner” I happily went right on my way to completing the work all alone. It is from that start that we are able to train our “independence muscle” that so many people lack. Now, as a 22-year-old working girl, I can handle large projects by breaking them into pieces, working them out and then presenting it to my team. I am observant and insightful when learning new things. Another thing to be proud – not many can say the same.

6. It is attractive

Being an introvert, most of us will seldom boast about our accomplishments. That modesty is such an attractive quality, but it is often brushed under the rug. This modesty is likely why many us us thrive in human services fields – working for a cause, not an applause. But think about how often you hear someone going on and on about what they have done, what they are doing and what they are going to do next. While it is great to celebrate those achievements, keeping some things on the down low is such an appealing trait to have.

Rejoice introverts! Your nature is something to be proud of, and it is just how we are wired. Of all the successful introverts in the world (i.e. Albert Einstein, Rosa Parks, Bill Gates) YOU are one of them. Embrace these qualities and accept them whole-heatedly .

Your introversion benefits you in more ways than you would think.

I will like to know what you think about this topic today. Drop your comments.

I want to appreciate Rachel Snodgrass as a guest on this piece from daily positive.

When You Learn To Accept Your Flaws, You Thrive

When you learn to accept your flaws, you learn how to be happy with who you are now until you get to where you want to be. You don’t compare yourself to those ahead of you and feel insecure about yourself and your accomplishments.

You don’t look at accepting your flaws as complacency or lack of ambition, you look at it as compassion and self-love; knowing you’ll never be perfect, you’ll never look a certain way and you’ll never entirely love everything about yourself but that won’t stop you from embracing your flaws. Learning to love what you can’t change. Feeling good enough and knowing your worth instead of looking at yourself through the eyes of others.

When you learn to accept your flaws, you’re not susceptible to people’s judgments, words or opinions of you. No one can shame you or hold them against you. You embrace the fact that you’re human and you’re learning and you still have a long way to go.

The beauty of learning to accept your flaws is that it takes away the pressure to impress people or always trying to measure up to someone.

When you learn to accept your flaws you attract people who accept them too. You find people who don’t make you feel like you need to change who you are. You find people who appreciate the fact that you’re a little weird, a little eccentric, a little messy, a little bizarre but they love you anyway.

When you learn to accept your flaws instead of picking at them and magnifying them, you create a healthy environment for yourself, you begin to nurture yourself in all the right ways, you become stronger, more resilient and more confident and you begin to understand that even with your flaws, you’re still beautiful and even with your flaws, you’re still loved.

When you learn to accept your flaws, you learn how to fight your own battles and win and you learn how to shield yourself from unnecessary wars.

When you learn to accept your flaws, you won’t ever live questioning if you’re good enough for others as long as you feel good enough for yourself.

Source: Thoughts Catalogue

Ignore Society, This Is How You Should Be Labeled

Most people label you by what you wear, the kind of car you drive, what job you have and how much money you make. Often these labels are shallow and impermanent, but this is how society likes to define us and consequently, this is how we sometimes define ourselves. But what we should really be labeled by; is who we are and who we’re trying to be.


You should be labeled by your pain. The hardships you endured, how gravely you suffered, the heartbreak that left you empty, the wounds that scarred your veins and the tragedies that became part of your story.

You should be labeled by you strength. How you survived your pain, how you healed or how you’re still healing, how you’re going to fight through the bad days and how you’re overcoming your own fears.

You should be labeled by your kindness. By how giving you are and how big your heart is, by how forgiving you are and how compassionate you can be. By how far you’re willing to go for those you love without expecting anything in return and how much you’re willing to compromise for them.

You should be labeled by your love. How you can do anything for the one you love and how supportive you can be to your closest friends. How protective you are and how loyal you are and how you continue to love even after you’ve been hurt.

You should be labeled by your dreams. What you really want to be doing, how you want to change the world, how you want to change lives or change your life and how you want to be remembered long after you’re gone. You should be defined by your wishes and your dreams not by what you do to make ends meet.

You should be labeled by your hidden beauty. The beauty that shines from the inside, the beauty that has got nothing to with makeup or pretty outfits. The beauty that people can only see when they know you and discover the treasures you hold within.

You should be labeled by your soul. The energy you exude, the way you make people feel, the way you help them see the best in themselves and the way you try to make someone’s life better. How you see God, how you trust the universe and how you connect with the world around you.

You should be labeled by all the things that touched your heart and the things that blew your mind. You shouldn’t be labeled by the things that make you conform, you should be labeled by the things that make you stand out.
If you follow what society brings, you will be lost in the wind. Be true to yourself and brand it hard