Your Insecurities Are Loudest In Your Own Mind

Every morning, you probably stare in the mirror longer than you should, worried something about your makeup isn’t right, worried a hair is out of place, worried you’re going to make a fool of yourself if you step out of the house looking like you do.

You probably do the same thing with social media. Before you post a picture, you probably examine every inch of your body, on the search for flaws. But no one else is going to sit there and stare at your photo for as long as you have (unless they like you and are thinking about how adorable you look).

Either way, no one else is judging you as much as you’re judging yourself. No one is thinking the same harsh things you think about yourself. The rest of the world sees you differently than you see yourself. You’re not wearing the same set of lenses.

Even though you might feel like the rest of the world is looking down on you, your insecurities are the loudest in your own mind. The worst possible thing anyone could say about you has already been said by the voice in the back of your head. In a way, that’s a good thing, because it means no one else is judging you as harshly as you think they are.

However, in some ways, it’s also a horrible thing. You don’t want to play the role of your own worst enemy. You don’t want to hate yourself over a few tiny flaws when there are a million different things to love about yourself.

Even though it’s much harder to be kind to the person in the mirror than it is to be kind to others, you want to start learning how to treat yourself with love and compassion, with admiration and respect. You want to start treating yourself the way you treat your loved ones.

No, you’re not perfect — but no one is perfect. Everyone, even the person you consider the most beautiful woman in the world, has things they’re insecure about. You’re perfectly normal for feeling self-conscious. You’re allowed to be uncomfortable with certain aspects of yourself. But you shouldn’t let that discomfort turn into self-hatred. You shouldn’t punish yourself for being yourself.

You’re more beautiful than you believe, on the inside and the outside. It might take you a while to see that, but you’re going to get there as long as you put in the effort.

Stop assuming everyone is judging you. Stop assuming everyone is thinking the absolute worst about you. Even more importantly, stop thinking the worst about yourself. Stop treating yourself like a punching bag. Stop acting like you have nothing to offer this world. Stop doubting yourself. Stop selling yourself short. Stop practicing self-hatred when you should be practicing self-love.

Your insecurities aren’t as noticeable as you think. Even if someone else sees the same ‘flaw’ you see, they aren’t going to dwell on it. It’s not going to make a difference in their life. They aren’t going to give a hoot.

Much credit to Holly Riordan

Meet Ire Aderinokun: The Tech Genius & First Nigerian Woman To Become Google Developer Expert

She is the first Nigerian woman to be a google developer expert. She is one of the most influential young women in Nigeria and making us proud.

She is truly doing well, which makes her our wcw this week.

Ire Aderinokun is one of the three Google developer experts in Nigeria. Ire is a self-taught UI/UX Designer and Front-End Developer working in Lagos, Nigeria. Since starting her blog, bitsofcode, in 2015, she has written weekly articles on HTML, CSS, and JavaScript.

It all started at age 14 when Ire Aderinokun played an online game and got stuck in the world of pixels and bits. She went on to get a Degree in Experimental Psychology and a Master’s in Law but never forgot her first love.

Aderinokun’s career emphasizes the importance of being a self-starter and consistency. She has succeeded in building a career on the platform of thought leadership and it has gotten even better as she is giving back to society. Progressing from a mailing list of 1,431 to 2,541 subscribers on her blog, to speaking at the WeAreDevelopers conference in Vienna last year, Aderinokun has shown us that commitment to consistency is the purest form of handwork.

Currently working as a full-time front-end developer at eye/o, she is dedicating her resources to seeing young women through tech programs online.

Source: http://www.womenafrica.com